My crush has started to date someone recently, what do I do?
Hi, I've been really sad about my situation. I started to like this great girl who's sweet and kind. I'd like to build up a better friendship before asking her out. I'm more into the serious relationships than casual dating.
But recently, it appears that started to date someone. I don't really know, but based on her myspace page, she started to post a few pictures of her and some other guy. What do I do?
You could keep your options open. Don't know what else to say. If she's dating someone else, then perhaps you should cool off and see what else is out there.
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Just because you ask her out doesn't mean you're starting something casual. Certainly nothing more casual than a friendship! Asking her out lets her know you're interested. That doesn't mean you need to rush things, but if you don't make the effort how is she to know?
I agree with KinAz. You can still ask her out, let her know you're interested. Looks like she has no idea you are interested with her, so just do something to let her know you are, and wait for her reaction.
Best way IMO to deal with a crush is to act on it, assuming you're free to and the other person isn't in an obviously committed relationship (like living together, engaged or married). Shove your stuff out there, take what results and resolve it, one way or another. IMO, the best way to catch your crushes attention is for her to know you have your options open and are attractive to other women (by being with them). By doing this, you might meet someone where the interest is instantly mutual and thoughts of your crush will be long gone
Serious relationships START with one casual date, then another, and so on. "You can't run before you can walk," basically. Your personal preferences notwithstanding, there's just no way to get to "serious" if you don't get the "casual" stage out of the way. (Well, I guess you can if it's an arranged marriage but other than that...)
I agree to just ask her out. Quickly. Before she gets too involved with this new guy. That is, before their casual dating turns serious. Ask her out today!
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Thanks everyone. I feel better. May be I'll see how we can do somethings together and gauge how serious she is about this new person. What do you all think?
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Certainly nothing more casual than a friendship! Asking her out lets her know you're interested. That doesn't mean you need to rush things, but if you don't make the effort how is she to know?
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