[Jilly Bean]

So, my Mom kept telling me I should go back to her hairdresser. And some of you said I should try and resurrect a friendship with her.

SO, I left her a VM today asking her to make a hairdressing appointment.

She sent me this text:

After the way u treated me when we went to the bar i do not want u as a client. I texted u the next day out of respect for your mother. I am shocked that u would even ask after u almost left me there with a complete stranger. i can refer u to someone in the salon.

And my response should be... (lol)

PS. On TUE when my Mom was in the salon, she asked me how I was doing.

[Jilly Bean]

Sorry - I meant that when my Mom was in the salon on TUE, the HAIRDRESSER asked my Mom how I was doing.

I suppose the best response is NONE. Right?

Though heaven knows I have a ton of comebacks I'd like to shoot back.

Bad Bean, bad.

[D-Lish]

hmm, I don't know- I would surely have something to say!
Who wants to get into a texting war with a crazy person though...
What did your mom say when you told her?

[Jilly Bean]

Exactly. I also am sure she would be the type to show my Mom any texts I sent her once she came in again. Or a voicemail.

She didn't have much to say (she was cooking dinner), but I know that she loves this hairdresser, as she has been going to her for 7 years. I asked her where her loyalty was, but as women, I guess I can understand her wanting to still see her and not get in the middle. How hard is it to find a hairdresser you like?

Eh - I guess I will ignore it. Probably the best response. I think responding would give her too much power and make it seem like I cared.

I just love her take of the evening. Leave her with a stranger? First off, we were about 3 miles from her house. And secondly, as I said at the time, if she wasn't into the guy, then why spend 30 minutes hanging out and chatting with him?

Whatta douche.

I hate the women out here. Bunch of nut bags and ho's.

Bleh.

[johan]

Don't respond. There is nothing to gain from it.

[Jilly Bean]

True dat, J-man.

I just got off the phone and told my Mom the whole story. She said she would consider no longer seeing the hairdresser, but I would feel pretty badly about her doing that.

I wish there was a way that Mom could blow her off while still being a client. lol

[johan]

For greatest effect, your mom should walk out in mid-hairdo. Think she'd do it? You could even get the whole thing on video to preserve the memory.

[Jilly Bean]

LOL. Well, I adore my Mom and I know now she feels in the middle.

She loves how this girl does her hair, yet she also has loyalty to me and I know would like to blow her off.

She did tell me that she would take it under advisement.

I still would feel badly about making her switch, yet is it wrong that I feel like if Mom still goes to her that it makes it seem like the hairdresser *won* somehow?

Maybe Im not processing this properly.

[johan]

You are.

Your mom has a relationship with this person that has nothing to do with you. It's hers to manage and it's better not to interfere with it. Just be glad you've cut a little bit of drama out of your life and that's the best you should hope for.

[Jilly Bean]

Thanks. Your cool "guy" response is the one I needed to hear.

Can I have Mom not tip her well anymore?

Or, can I tell the hairdresser that she's fat?

[johan]

One word: karma. If you let this go, that is good karma. If you keep it going, that is bad karma.

[The Collector]

How about 'I apologize for leaving you with that guy, I thought you were getting on, and I needed to go home. But if we can't be friends, let's stay friendly. Take care x'

I offer this with a 95% likelihood your pride would not allow to you to send such a peace offering.

[Jilly Bean]

Originally Posted by johan

One word: karma. If you let this go, that is good karma. If you keep it going, that is bad karma.

Word. Totally, totally right.

OK, I'm over it. lol

Im really not so much upset, as just shocked that she had such a different take of the evening's events. Tequila can do strange things to people. lol

[dgiirl]

Originally Posted by The Collector

How about 'I apologize for leaving you with that guy, I thought you were getting on, and I needed to go home. But if we can't be friends, let's stay friendly. Take care x'

^^ What he said.

[Eve]

How about 'I apologize for leaving you with that guy, I thought you were getting on, and I needed to go home. But if we can't be friends, let's stay friendly. Take care x'

I agree with you... but this is a very mature stance. As the saying goes - 'youth is wasted on the young'

As a Mother myself, in an identical situation I would not have sided with either person. I would have expected my daughter to have the maturity to sort out the matter without letting it fester for so long. I would be quite embarrased .. but thats my life and expectations.