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Old 3rd September 2008, 9:44 PM   #1
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I am a 24 year old woman. I have a high profile client who is about 55. To complicate matters more, I am one of HIS clients as well. We have gotten to know each other quite well over the past year and have become pretty good friends. This guy has a history of being kinda sexual with me- When we first met and I told him I was getting married, he tried to convince me everytime I saw him that I shouldnt get married. He didnt say why he thought I shouldnt get hitched... but he made it a point to say that at least once a week. He will say semi sexual things to me sometimes, but it kinda goes along with his profession though (dont really want to elaborate for privacy sake) so I usually just laugh it off. A few months ago, I found myself becoming attracted to him. We would talk all the time, I would send him random text messages (very sparingly though) and just yank his chain when he would come into the office- but nothing sexual just innocent flirting. One week he went on vacation, and I sent him a text to say that I missed him and hoped he would come back soon. Within 30 minutes, his office manager was calling my cell phone reminding me that he was "sitting in meetings all week" and that he wanted to "make sure we were on the same page". I figured he didnt feel the same way I did, so I let it go but we of course stayed friends. We talked about it and he told me that there was "a line there" because I was his client. Then a few weeks ago, I pulled him aside to make sure I wasnt making him feel uncomfortable when he was around me, and he got really quiet and told me that if I wasnt married, he would ask me out. Ok... so I am extremely confused. One month he wants to make sure we are on the same page (and doesnt even have the guts to call me himself and tell me) then the next he tells me he would ask me out if I were single. I am in the midst of a separation now but he does not know that as I have kept it private. He is always telling me what a beautiful person I am and he will try to tickle me or hug me when he sees me... and the other day when I mentioned going on a trip to Cali, he told me that I should have married someone who could afford to give me that lifestyle (he can definately afford it.) And then the other day he says "Bye, love you, see you next week"..... What is going on here?????? I will take any advice I can get! I dont think he is playing games as he is not that type... but what do you guys think he wants??????
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Old 4th September 2008, 1:53 AM   #2
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Old 4th September 2008, 12:00 PM   #3
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He is always telling me what a beautiful person I am and he will try to tickle me or hug me when he sees me... and the other day when I mentioned going on a trip to Cali, he told me that I should have married someone who could afford to give me that lifestyle (he can definately afford it.) And then the other day he says "Bye, love you, see you next week"..... What is going on here?????? I will take any advice I can get! I dont think he is playing games as he is not that type... but what do you guys think he wants??????
It's really simple. Gramps wants to get in your pants.

You've already failed completely at keeping things professional. Do you want things to go back to work oriented?

Also, the comment about lifestyle shows that he sees you as someone who is somewhat superficial. Is that the case?
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Old 4th September 2008, 7:03 PM   #4
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NO I am not superficial. While it is true that this gentleman can afford certain things that I cannot, I would never ever ever in a million years let him buy me ANYTHING! I am very independent and like to provide for myself. So you can rule that out! I am very stubborn in this way. When he told me that, I told him that I would never marry someone just for their money. I was insistent on making that clear!

Normally, I am not attracted to men this old! But for some reason there is something about him that I am really drawn to... and thats why this is very confusing. There are a lot of things at work here, so anyone who has an honest, heartfelt opinion- please feel free to share it!
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Old 4th September 2008, 7:04 PM   #5
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and whats with the sarcastic "you're amazing" comment???? :-(
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