[gus123]

I've like this girl for a year now, and she used to like me back. Me and her worked together. Anyways, I never took the chance and asked her out, and she ended up losing interest; so by the time I asked her she said She doesn't view me that way anymore. That was back in December.

about a week ago me and her went out to a party with some co-workers and their friends. just fyi me and her are about 20 yo. Later that night at the party me and her got drunk and made out. We kinda left the main group and laid down outside together. she laid on my arm and ran her hand through my hair and rubbed my back and we made out and talked. she said she didn't want to tell me a lot of stuff about her because if I found out about her I'd hate her. because she was running her hand through my hair, i felt comfortable enough to kinda tell her about how i cared for her and everything. I remember her saying "awwww" a few times after i said some things.... I did most of the talking but she told me a few bad things about herself, it was like she kinda wanted to show me that she wasn't a good person or something.


after about a half hour she wanted to go back to the group, after a few min. it was like she couldn't wait to get back. I remember asking her if she wanted to go out with me right before and she was extremely reluctant, and said she would go bowling or to a movie if she remembered. I said i'd send her a txt and she said she probably wouldn't read it the next morning. when we got back to the main group she seemed kinda distant but still didn't hesitate to kiss me.

about 30 min after we got back she laid down in the back of someone's car and went to sleep.

it's just been bugging me, but do u think that she has just a little bit of an attraction for me? what should I do?

i feel extremely bad that this even happened and that I opened up emotionally to her, I wanted to have her show some sort of affection to me for the longest time that when she finally showed some i got comfortable enough to say things I shouldn't of said; i was drunk but i feel that doesn't excuse me...

I asked her if she remembers anything from that night, and she seemed to kinda avoid talking about what happened between me and her...

[ed-205]

Alcohol, even in moderate amounts, is the closest thing to a "Love Potion" that exists in the real world. Unfortunately, it wears off.
Ask her again when you're both sober, and remember that if she doesn't say "yes", *anything* else she says means "NO!"

[gus123]

so ur saying that what happened doesn't necessarily mean she has an underlying attraction for me, it was probably just the alcohol that influenced everything and that i shouldn't interpret it as anything else?

[ed-205]

I'm saying that women get drunk and have sex with guys they don't even know. In the morning they say they did it because they were drunk, and not because of any underlying attraction.

In your case, the alcohol only serves to distort the issue. This is something you need to examine when both of you are clear-headed and can exercise good judgment.

Maybe the question you need to be thinking about is how YOU were behaving at the time that caused her to respond the way she did.