I have a steady girlfriend and we have been living together for almost 2 years now. Everyone sees us as a happy couple, and everyone is envious of us.
2 months ago, one of her friends chatted with me online and subsequently we went out for coffee, and that first session of coffee ends up with me being intimate with her. We are both every attracted to each other, but at the same time both of us are emotionally drained. She told me she hates men who cheated on their gf/spouse, but at the same time confusing me by telling me that she understands my situation and responsibility towards my gf perfectly and told me that she'll wait for me, hoping that i one day would break up with my gf or my gf get bored of me and dump me, so we can be together.
The problem is I love and care of my gf, but i am no more attracted to my gf sexually, hence that intimate session with her. That night itself, I tried to fetch information for my gf whether she still loves me and the answer is very positive. She told me until today, she loves me with the same intensity like when we first started.
I told myself i won't dump my gf just for her friend, but at the same time i can't bring myself to forget her friend. I am NOT doing somehting right i know, but please advice me what should i do.
First of all, that "friend" of your g/f isn't a friend at all. NO-ONE who is a friend goes after someone elses boyfriend. She tells you she hates men who cheats? Well, then you just proved her right then because that is what you did with her.
To make it stop? To remove temptation? I say you should tell your g/f just what kind of friends she has. She will be mad at you both, but she deserves honesty - especially since you've already done the deed and keep thinking about the other girl as well.
If you loved and cared your g/f so much you would have tried to solve the situation with her before you went the easy way to get it somewhere else. Someone new will ALWAYS be exciting - but it's up to you both to keep the excitement in the relationship. Your g/f cannot fix what she doesn't know is broken.
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Please break up with your gf ASAP and tell her (not-a-friend) to break off her friendship with your gf also. The two of you going behind your gf's back and seeing each other is foul. I think the two of you (you and the not-a-friend) belong together and deserve each other. Let your gf go so she can find a guy who respects her enough not to go out with her friends and wants her sexually since you do not!
What advice are you hoping to hear here that you don't already know?
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Thanks everyone for your advice. I have made my decision to apologize to my gf, let her know what i had done and make find a solution if we could rekindle the romance we once shared. I just couldn't walk out on a girl who would put herself between me and an incoming car. And i hug her to sleep yesterday night, thinking what would i do without this girl, and realised that i still love her very much.
As for her friend, i did what i had to do. i had blocked her totally from my msn to my cell.
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