Cheating, Flirting, and JealousyBeing unfaithful to your significant other or suspect them of the same? Can't stand the way they flirt? Jealous? Discuss your experiences here.
My girlfriend and I have a wonderful relationship, we've been together for 6 months now. One thing that she does that kind of annoys me is she'll playfully hit other guys.
Now this normally wouldn't bug me, but I remember when I was back in the whole "how to know if girls like you" fiasco alot of people would say that one of the number one signs that a girl is interested in you is that she will look for reasons to touch you, such as playfully punching or hitting.
She doesn't do this to all guys, only the cooler guys, the kind of guys that girls like. For clarification, I consider myself way above their status, and so does she, I'm not threatened. It's just annoying as hell. I don't think she intends to "flirt", but I start to think, does that mean she's subconciously attracted to these guys? Or am I just over analyzing. She does it while I'm around so like I said I don't think she intends it.
Is this something girls would do to just a friend? Or does it usually mean that there is some attraction there?
From your description it seems obvious that she is enjoying flirting with these so-called cool guys by touching them this way. It is a sign of disrespect toward you and your relationship. If the roles were reversed, how do you think she would be feeling? I doubt that she would think it is cute you touching and flirting with only good looking girls.
I guess I should point out. She shows no other signs of flirting except these playful punches every once in a while, like if they jokingly make fun of her or something. (I don't at all think these guys are flirting with her, they have alot of respect for me and wouldn't cross that line).
I'm positive her intention isn't to flirt, and I honestly think she is not conciously interested in these guys, I just want to know if this is a sign of just buddies, cause they are her friends, or if she is subconciously attracted to them as more than just a friend.
Last edited by Booker43; 30th August 2008 at 6:52 PM..
If she does this with every guy then it is just her nature. The fact that you said that she does it with only the "real cool guys" tells you that at some level she is attracted to them.
Personally, I don't find flirting that objectionable. What I do find objectionable is if she is flirting with men in your presence. I would find that really rude, myself.
So why not just tell her it bothers you??? If she is not intentionally flirting, she might not even be aware she is doing anything wrong. Let her know so she can make adjustments now. If she can see this from your perspective, I'm sure she will understand.
My ex (2 ex's ago) was like this and I got used to it. I think some people just like to flirt as an ego boost, not because they are actually interested in the flirtee....I think it just makes them feel better about themselves when they get a positive reaction. I never had a problem with my ex cheating or taking it beyond the harmless flirting. We broke up because of a work situation. I wouldn't worry unless you see it go beyond that. For example, has any of these guys approached her later in the evening? If so, what was her reaction?
Booker43.... could you enlight me by explaining why you consider yourself waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay above the status of those guys your girlfriend likes to "fondle".
And to answer your question... she would not "stroke" them if she didn't find them in some way attractive.
One more thing... I have seen a lot guys with waaaaaaaaaaaay above status who were absolutely convinced that their girlfriends/wives would never even consider cheating on them... only to one day to find out that they are just another number in cockold statistics... can you imagine that those women didn't give a flying f... about waaaaaaaaaay above status of their men... how dare they?
Is this something girls would do to just a friend? Or does it usually mean that there is some attraction there?
Thanks
Most guys see this as heavy flirting. She is leading these guys on... and that always leads to bad things.
Maybe you should talk to her about that. It's not that what she does is bad... it's just other guys will see it as a sign that she is interested in them.
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