NO, that is NOT overreacting. Personally, I have been through a divorce and would NOT date another guy until the divorce was final. To me, being separated, he is still married.Why would he tell he was divorced and then lie about being only separated?? Sounds shady.
I dated a guy when he was separated. He got divorced while we were going out. He was over the woman, but he had a lot of feelings of guilt and failure. It ended up to be too much for us. I don't think he was a bad guy, but I do think he used me a little bit to ease the transition. Anyway, I ended up with my little heart broken. It is easy to say, well what did you expect? But actually, I didn't know what to expect. I was only 25 and I had only had one serious boyfriend. I thought this guy and I were a good match.
So my advice is to proceed if everything is going well, but proceed with caution. This guy's emotions might be all over the map.
I like him a lot, a whole lot. I have never felt so good with anyone in a long time, the way I do with him. He doesn't seem to have any hangups, saying the marriage was dead a couple of years back. He also appears so keen to finalize his divorce and move on.
Issues: I know for sure he initially said he's divorced, even his online profile said so. Yesterday when I went back to verify this, I noticed that he has changed status to 'separated'. I can swear this was not there before.
So now I get the clear picture. Initially we only talked by email everyday for about 1 month. He never asked for my number or volunteered to give his number. A little unusual. He said he liked things slower. So, only now I realize this was infact due to the fact that he was still home with wifey. We exchanged nos in July (I guess after he moved out), and met shortly afterwards.
Everything is going so well, however, I find the fact that he lied about his status rather disturbing.
I don't know what to do, but (call me stupid) I know for sure I'll not dump him.
thats such a tricky situation.... if your not gonna leave, just be very cautious, and maybe let him know what your thinking. Either way, he lied to you, and his reasons for it might be pretty shady like other have said
thats such a tricky situation.... if your not gonna leave, just be very cautious, and maybe let him know what your thinking. Either way, he lied to you, and his reasons for it might be pretty shady like other have said
Well, I haven't. I'm just dumb, dumb, dumb and so angry with being so dumb.
But we haven't done that just yet, and he doesn't appear keen. Generally speaking he treats me with lots of respect, and in all cases I was the one to initiate physical contact.
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