Cheating, Flirting, and JealousyBeing unfaithful to your significant other or suspect them of the same? Can't stand the way they flirt? Jealous? Discuss your experiences here.
well, im 15 years old and i cant stop cheating on my boyfriends i try so hard not to..
and im scared because i found the right guy but im always talking to this dude like im single and i want to stop!!
well, im 15 years old and i cant stop cheating on my boyfriends i try so hard not to..
and im scared because i found the right guy but im always talking to this dude like im single and i want to stop!!
SOMEONE HELP ME!!!
I know... it IS scary...
Maybe you should try harder trying to try to stop..
well, im 15 years old and i cant stop cheating on my boyfriends i try so hard not to..
and im scared because i found the right guy but im always talking to this dude like im single and i want to stop!!
SOMEONE HELP ME!!!
Ashley, don't worry ok? You're fine. You're only 15 and this is normal. It's only when you're much, much older that you need to worry about this.
If you start to have sex for example for money or something like that, THEN you need to start to worry about being a whore.
But for now, you're just a normal teenager.
Just don't have sex with many guys or you'll grow up to be a whore and a slut. And you sound too classy for that.
You don't want to have a man never want to marry you do you? You don't want to have children out of wedlock do you?
No. I didn't think so. You sound too classy for that.
Just get yourself under control. You'll be ok. It's not too late for you, dear.
well, im 15 years old and i cant stop cheating on my boyfriends i try so hard not to..
and im scared because i found the right guy but im always talking to this dude like im single and i want to stop!!
SOMEONE HELP ME!!!
Hi Ashley.
Do you tell your boyfriends after you cheat on them? Maybe you should consider letting your boyfriend know that you dont want things to be too serious right now.
When you find the right one, you won't want to cheat, so perhaps you just haven't met that one guy who really makes you feel good about yourself.
I used to do what you are doing, and I'm in my thirties . It was always so weird that I'd flirt with other guys, and not let them know i had a boyfriend. Why did I do that??? I totally liked the attention. you ARE young, so dont be too hard on yourself. I've cheated on tons of guys when I was 18-21, and guys cheated on me too. The best thing to do, in my opinion, is just just try and be honest with everyone, even if it hurts. People cheat...at 15, and 55 so its not something new here, but honesty is the hardest part. Good luck. And oh....you are definately NOT a whore.
I don't agree that this is normal behaviour for teenage girls although it does happen, same as with adults. I'm not convinced that once a pattern of behaviour is set at this age, that it won't continue throughout adult years.
I think many youth has the same problem as yours. when you are in this age span, you aren't very sure about own identity, so you seek out for others' validation. If you aren't sure about yourself, about who you are, you easily rely on others' opinion about you. If a person express he likes you, then you tend to do anything for him to keep that validation going on. It is not good. It puts you in a very vulnerable position, and continue doing this would make you an empty shell. you will find out when they offer compliments the same time they ask you for something you shouldn't or cannot offer.
Nobody can give you your values, It seems to me that you become compulsive when someone show interests in you. You don't have responsibility to do anything for them. Your value is not determined by others' opinions, your value only is determined by God. Please find value and strength in God and yourself, I think everything would be fine.
I know several good books, talk about confidence or identity, if you have time, please read them, they would enrich and change your life for betterness. if you aren't interested in reading, they have CDs for same content.
How to Succeed at Being Yourself: Finding the Confidence to Fulfill Your Destiny by Joyce Meyer
Battlefield of the Mind for Teens: Winning the Battle in Your Mind by Joyce Meyer and Todd Hafer
Teenagers Are People Too! by Joyce Meyer
Last edited by Lovelybird; 5th August 2008 at 9:58 PM..
I don't agree that this is normal behaviour for teenage girls although it does happen, same as with adults. I'm not convinced that once a pattern of behaviour is set at this age, that it won't continue throughout adult years.
We dont even know what she meant by "cheating". Is she sleeping around? Or is she just flirting with other boys. all she mentioned was sending a boy a photo. I think its normal for 15 year olds to have boyfriends, and YES many are having sex. What is normal behavior for a teenager anyway?
I'm not convinced that the behavior will continue as an adult. It may or may not...just depends on how the person grows and matures.
Ashley, you've gotten some great advice here. Don't get obsessed with any one guy. Until you find the right man for you, you will look like a loser if you hang on to just one. One who is wrong for you. So just be casual until then.
But don't have sex with just anyone. Or even a few. Because if you do, you'll never feel good about yourself. You'll be nothing more than just a slut. And you're too young to be labeled that way.
You'll never feel good about yourself if you don't hold out for the right one.
I'm a little suprised that you have had heaps of boyfriends to cheat on at 15, really. Sort of young to be in serious relationships- for this exact reason.
I think the mistake you are making here isn't cheating so much as it is getting involved like this and thereby limiting your ability to flirt.
I'm going to give you a golden rule though- when in doubt, don't put out.
Hey, I just made that up, and it rhymes! High five? Anyone?
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. It was always so weird that I'd flirt with other guys, and not let them know i had a boyfriend. Why did I do that??? I totally liked the attention. you ARE young, so dont be too hard on yourself. I've cheated on tons of guys when I was 18-21, and guys cheated on me too. The best thing to do, in my opinion, is just just try and be honest with everyone, even if it hurts. People cheat...at 15, and 55 so its not something new here, but honesty is the hardest part. Good luck. And oh....you are definately NOT a whore. 
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