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Old 24th July 2008, 9:47 AM   #1
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hey guys, i have been doin well about moving on and excepting everything for how it is.

however, last night i drove to a place with some friends, and we went past a place that i first met her. college. i havnt seen it for 2 years. and it brought up alot of memories and made me feel sad.

i then had a dream about her, some one said, she flirts with every guy that comes into the shop. so i went in and started riots. knocking things over etc

i then left for the train and was crying in my dream.


i know it wasnt a good idea to go by that place but i didnt think it would effect me. it made me miss her alot

i dont know how to feel or what to do

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Old 24th July 2008, 9:57 AM   #2
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hey guys, i have been doin well about moving on and excepting everything for how it is.

however, last night i drove to a place with some friends, and we went past a place that i first met her. college. i havnt seen it for 2 years. and it brought up alot of memories and made me feel sad.

i then had a dream about her, some one said, she flirts with every guy that comes into the shop. so i went in and started riots. knocking things over etc

i then left for the train and was crying in my dream.


i know it wasnt a good idea to go by that place but i didnt think it would effect me. it made me miss her alot

i dont know how to feel or what to do

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I can relate. There are triggers all over this city.
And the dreams..................yes - still a few times a week.
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Old 24th July 2008, 10:29 AM   #3
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I can relate. There are triggers all over this city.
And the dreams..................yes - still a few times a week.
I guess I'm lucky in a way. I'm over 2000kms from Tony. I only get triggers if I go to Brisbane because we went up there last year when my father was sick with cancer. F*ck I still miss him though. I don't know if I dream about him, I don't have to. I'm just about to go back to building sheds and that triggers lots of things for me because that was our life 2gether. It makes me sad.
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Old 24th July 2008, 11:35 AM   #4
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sorry to hear that.

yeah i miss her alot to. she is over 500miles away now. i feel that it was my fault i didnt stay in contact. but how could i after she gets a new bf straight away
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Old 24th July 2008, 10:13 PM   #5
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i miss her like ****.
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Old 25th July 2008, 1:46 AM   #6
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It'll get better with time.

I have memories of her everywhere I go.. I took her to almost every decent restaurant in this city.

Everytime I go shopping, to watch a movie.

With each trigger, the next time it won't be so bad. The pain will dull. Have faith in that.
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Old 25th July 2008, 2:14 AM   #7
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i miss her like ****.

Whats it like to miss ****? Did you and **** have a close relationship?

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Old 25th July 2008, 4:15 AM   #8
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im not in "her city" now. im not part of "her" life.

its hard missing ****. lo

i hate knowing the more time that passes the less she will care about us at all, or what was i should say
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Old 25th July 2008, 2:40 PM   #9
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im not in "her city" now. im not part of "her" life.

its hard missing ****. lo

i hate knowing the more time that passes the less she will care about us at all, or what was i should say
But the more time passes the more you will care for yourself
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Old 25th July 2008, 3:05 PM   #10
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Hey, I'm guilty too it's been around 9 months or so, last I heard she was getting REAALLLLYYYY serious with her man. Like he got down on one knee or something. I don't think it's going to last anyways if after 9 months the guy decides to get on his knee... that's too early. Anyways. I dream of her sometimes... It doesn't hurt like 9 months ago though. As for the memories... I'm swinging in them daily. Just let time pass and eventually you either get used to them or forget.
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