[skippy7]

I have been dating a guy for about 6 months. I feel however, that I'm putting alot more into the relationship than he is. Sometimes I feel like he just treats me as a friend. I'll go places and do things with him, even if I don't really want to...just so I can be with him. I've asked him to go so many places with me and he won't, because he doesn't think he'll enjoy it. Now I hate when a guy pays for me all the time, but we're about 50/50 as to who pays. I don't think that's right. Also, I'm always saying stuff like "I'm really lucky to have you, etc." and he never ever does. Just this past week was both of our birthdays. I bought him quite a few things, and spent quite a bit. He bought me a pair of flip flops...that were the wrong size and ones I actually already had. We've talked and he just doesn't see where I'm coming from, but says he'll try and change. I like him so much, but is it worth staying with him? Could he just be a very unemotional guy who doesn't show his feelings? What should I do?

[confused and broken]

You sound miserable.... and at the end you finally mention that you "like him so much"...
Could it be that you like the idea of having a BF so much and not necessarily him... Because as far as I can tell there is a lot you don't like about him...
Ive put up with crap like that from men because I wanted companionship but it was always a mistake...

[AdrianaLima]

I don't think that he's is worth staying with. You don't sound happy at all. Everything that you mentioned, sounds like he's not interested in you, one bit. You said you talked with him, and things just aren't clicking in his head. You should move on, and just remain friends. You said he treats you as a friend anyway right? Flip Flops? I would've been highly upset! He may not have had a lot of money, but he could've put more effort into getting you something. The least he could've did was made sure he knew your shoe size. Two words: Move on.

[confused999]

He doesn't seem into you. Don't make excuses for his behaviour, just pay attention to how he makes you feel (bad), and get away from him.

[Meaplus3]

Originally Posted by skippy7

I have been dating a guy for about 6 months. I feel however, that I'm putting alot more into the relationship than he is. Sometimes I feel like he just treats me as a friend. I'll go places and do things with him, even if I don't really want to...just so I can be with him. I've asked him to go so many places with me and he won't, because he doesn't think he'll enjoy it. Now I hate when a guy pays for me all the time, but we're about 50/50 as to who pays. I don't think that's right. Also, I'm always saying stuff like "I'm really lucky to have you, etc." and he never ever does. Just this past week was both of our birthdays. I bought him quite a few things, and spent quite a bit. He bought me a pair of flip flops...that were the wrong size and ones I actually already had. We've talked and he just doesn't see where I'm coming from, but says he'll try and change. I like him so much, but is it worth staying with him? Could he just be a very unemotional guy who doesn't show his feelings? What should I do?

It sounds to me like you are giving way more to the R then he is. I think you should have a talk with him about how your feeling to get a better feel for were he's at. Good luck.

AP

[Treasa]

Er, why do you tell him you're lucky to have him when clearly you're not? He's treating you like a doormat because you're acting like one.

Please pick up and read and re-read the book "Why Men Love Bitches" and see if you can identify with the negative behaviors listed.

[Lauriebell82]

Originally Posted by Treasa

Er, why do you tell him you're lucky to have him when clearly you're not? He's treating you like a doormat because you're acting like one.

Please pick up and read and re-read the book "Why Men Love Bitches" and see if you can identify with the negative behaviors listed.

Or "He's just not that into you." That's an eye opener as well.

[Gemini0525]

is NO.

Sorry.