Is he trying to PROMPT me to Sleep with New Men ?

HeartLikeLead · 24th July 2008, 1:01 AM

Im more confused than ever by guy I dated briefly and sleptwith.
He is long distance and we've staye din touch online/the phone
we both have new jobs sucking up our time.
and he has issues with trust because his exes cheated.
He has shown caring as a friend but not real interest in seeing me again soon (he'd offer to make things better, give input on my vacation, but nothing flirty)
anyway i just uploaded new photos to myspace.... kinda sassy, sexy, whatever. Not whorey just cheeky cute...
Anyway a friend made a remark that Im a brainy Tart.
I replied yes a brainy tart who is on temporary celibacy kick.
Well this morning the guy i dated made a comment that 'celibacy is not the way to go' under my rather sexy pic.

1 he is looking at my pics and reading comments
2 what the hell does his comment imply ?

Is he telling to go get my freak on with new men ?????

I replied on my photo comment thread : "its only temporary and since im very picky its easy (to stay celibate)"

i should add that him losing interest was kinda my fault... i got too busy
he also asked me last month about my 'social life' and what was going on. i said i was still too busy to have a social life.

porter218 · 24th July 2008, 1:17 AM

maybe he is implying himself...not other men.

HeartLikeLead · 24th July 2008, 1:25 AM

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Originally Posted by porter218

maybe he is implying himself...not other men.

I usually take men's comments at face value.
I KNOW men say what they mean
BUT in this guy's case not so much history has shown.
His own cousin joked that he will express things in an a-z route instead of a-b.

Peter_pan · 24th July 2008, 10:20 AM

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Originally Posted by porter218

maybe he is implying himself...not other men.

that is what i would mean if i said a comment like that

HeartLikeLead · 24th July 2008, 9:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Peter_pan

that is what i would mean if i said a comment like that

yeah I have no guy sense.... lol
One of my friends said to be Im nuts.... men dont tell women they had great sex with (he called it great, amazing several times)
to go spread it around with other guys.

did my cheeky reply possibly turn him off ? also ive had 3 other (totally platonic) guy friends comment on the thread since then////
that i look stunning, kittenish, smoldering.

kinda funny. lol

2sunny · 24th July 2008, 9:49 PM

i think he was stating that he wants the sex part from you. consider making time for him.

HeartLikeLead · 24th July 2008, 10:05 PM

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Originally Posted by 2sunny

i think he was stating that he wants the sex part from you. consider making time for him.

Im mulling it over. I finally told him I had vacation time and he started to help me explore what to do for vacation. Then he suddenly vanished for a week with no reply.... Came back online to tell me his new job is sucking up his time two weeks earlier than expected... uh-huh

Im a bit turned off that he is nearly 32 and now has a 20 year old he flirting with ... (shes underage of course, JUST turned 20 and he took her drinking last weekend...)
And I dont think its an intellectual match.
a tiny big haired big boobed tanned blonde little hottie.
::shakes head and laughs ruefully::

i do fine myself but damn im 31 and when i was that age 32 year olds seemed way old (and my friends say he seems mid 30s in looks/maturity)

hmm

Plus his best female friend whom he almost married (she is marrying someone else in september) is visiting him and mutual friends all august.
she is 34 and intellectual. I can see her totally getting p1ssy about this young chick he is hooking up with.
she goes back to junior year of college in a month... he can sweat things until then.

Ill leave him to his drama...

Ooooh brandon routh is on NBC's fear itself tv show... Off to watch eye candy (my ADD keeps me happy!)

Jilly Bean · 24th July 2008, 11:13 PM

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Originally Posted by HeartLikeLead

he is nearly 32 and now has a 20 year old he flirting with ... (shes underage of course, JUST turned 20 and he took her drinking last weekend...)a tiny big haired big boobed tanned blonde little hottie.

Ill leave him to his drama...

Uh, yeah. He seems like he's just flirting, and wouldn't rule out sex again with you, or anyone else willing to put out. He doesn't sound very relationship-minded...

HeartLikeLead · 25th July 2008, 3:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Jilly Bean

Uh, yeah. He seems like he's just flirting, and wouldn't rule out sex again with you, or anyone else willing to put out. He doesn't sound very relationship-minded...

He knows I will only have sex again if we're in a relationship.
And he is actually super picky.
I just don't know why he bothers to look at my photos and comment on my chosen temporary ceIibacy..

Funny.

Jilly Bean · 25th July 2008, 3:09 AM

Because he's trying to lay the groundwork for more booty with you. He's planting the seed...

HeartLikeLead · 25th July 2008, 3:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Jilly Bean

Because he's trying to lay the groundwork for more booty with you. He's planting the seed...

Ha ha I wish him well with that... I think I'll just remember him fondly when I'm alone with my rabbit.

the purple kind.
Anyway, thanks for your insight !

loveinlife · 25th July 2008, 6:11 AM

I think he is testing you. what do you think?

Jilly Bean · 25th July 2008, 11:57 AM

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Originally Posted by HeartLikeLead

Ha ha I wish him well with that... I think I'll just remember him fondly when I'm alone with my rabbit.

the purple kind.
Anyway, thanks for your insight !

LOL. ALWAYS a girl's ultimate best friend, ya know...

HeartLikeLead · 25th July 2008, 5:42 PM

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Originally Posted by loveinlife

I think he is testing you. what do you think?

testing me.. but i don't know in what form...
he is just hard to figure out...
now he wrote me a friendly innocuous email merely talking about his new job, how his workouts are going and movies he will be seeing.
Also mentioned his cute new dog he adopted and how his son is doing.
Very odd.,.... I think he himself keeps veering between wanting to be serious and wanting to be mr unfettered by love wildboy.
We both are packing rather big brains so Im afraid our mutual analytical natures make this situation worse (we both overthink things like love)

Lucky_One · 25th July 2008, 7:21 PM

You ought to check out a poster named Nagine (or something like that). She has a thread about letting time go by on the LDR board, towards the bottom. You two have amazingly similar stories. She can probably give you some thoughts.

But until she can give you reassurance that he is really into you and really likes you and really wants a serious R, I would have to agree with the other posters that he is setting you up for a booty call. He has a girl, but he had good sex with you, and you are putting up sexy pictures in the hope that he will comment on them. But just the simple fact that he obviously has a local GF ought to clue you in that he isn't looking for a R, but for either casual friendship or an easy hookup.