[elphantman21]

well, me and the ex were talking, and its made me think
for backgrounds read other posts, although i will briefly cover here
been nc on and off
she sed wed be friends when we broke up, and then we argued and stopped talking and then started and stopped..... etc..... -__-'
so my m8 pranks her at 3 in the morn or summit, and she flips
and then all of a sudden get an email sayin all like how are you, it be great to meet up, jus you n me, sort things out... etc.....
so nothing came of that
and all of a sudden she starts talking to me again....
she has borderline personality disorder, so shes always a bit of a gamble so to speak, when talking to her, you never know how shes gonna be.
thing is, every time, its been her re-initiating contact, and i never know whether its a genuine bridge build or a mere p*ss take to upset me.....
anywaysssss..... whenever i talk to her i still think shes the most wonderful thing that ever set foot on this earth etc, and weve been broken up a good 6/7 months now :/
bummer
so once i really felt something when we were talking, you know, like that thing of how it used to be.......
and one night i was bored and a little tipsy to put it one way, an i may have accidentally said to her that she was beautiful, that i missed her, that i wasnt complete without her, that i was unhappy since she left, that she was the only one.... etc etc.... all of which is really how i feel, but also all of which i never meant to actually tell her......
she seemed cool with it, accepted i was drunk and we promised not to let it change anything...
thing is shes being really off with me again, but i think thats just coz shes not great, coz we did talk nicely recently after the event as well :S :S :S
somebody help me decipher these mixed signals!!!

[borelandkaren]

Originally Posted by elphantman21

so once i really felt something when we were talking, you know, like that thing of how it used to be.......
and one night i was bored and a little tipsy to put it one way, an i may have accidentally said to her that she was beautiful, that i missed her, that i wasnt complete without her, that i was unhappy since she left, that she was the only one.... etc etc.... all of which is really how i feel, but also all of which i never meant to actually tell her......
she seemed cool with it, accepted i was drunk and we promised not to let it change anything...
thing is shes being really off with me again, but i think thats just coz shes not great, coz we did talk nicely recently after the event as well :S :S :S
somebody help me decipher these mixed signals!!!

Narcissists always try to get back their "supply". It sounds like so did she, being a borderline. She got her "fix" from you. Now she doesn't need it again until she feels you pulling away. U need to go NC. Obviously it's up to you and we can't make you do anything but the fact is that this girl is wrong on so many levels. Borderline just to start with. These people, like all who have personality disorders, are destructive to be around. Stay away. Avoid all contact. Don't answer phone calls. No SMSing, etc. It's better this way for you. You can then move on. Remember that if you found one girl who is beautiful, etc,etc, you will find another. There are many people in this world who are physically beautiful but get under the skin and they're ugly to the bone. Forget her.

[elphantman21]

someone please reply and help?
its driving me insane
im seriously becoming depressed, but thing is im not telling anyone, not even my closest mates coz they think im almost over it (although they do know about the incident the other night)
cut if soeone could helo me deal wth this ill be eternally in your debt!!!!

[elphantman21]

Originally Posted by borelandkaren

Narcissists always try to get back their "supply". It sounds like so did she, being a borderline. She got her "fix" from you. Now she doesn't need it again until she feels you pulling away. U need to go NC. Obviously it's up to you and we can't make you do anything but the fact is that this girl is wrong on so many levels. Borderline just to start with. These people, like all who have personality disorders, are destructive to be around. Stay away. Avoid all contact. Don't answer phone calls. No SMSing, etc. It's better this way for you. You can then move on. Remember that if you found one girl who is beautiful, etc,etc, you will find another. There are many people in this world who are physically beautiful but get under the skin and they're ugly to the bone. Forget her.

There are many people in this world who are physically beautiful but get under the skin and they're ugly to the bone. Forget her

thing is, shes the loveliest person when she is being nice.... and she has lied to me and stuff, but shes never ever purposefully set out to hurt me as far as i can tell... read other posts and make your own minds up, but my opinions have changed about her, and maybe im just being foolish and sappy, but theres nothing i want more in this world than just to see her again :/

[borelandkaren]

Originally Posted by elphantman21

There are many people in this world who are physically beautiful but get under the skin and they're ugly to the bone. Forget her

thing is, shes the loveliest person when she is being nice.... and she has lied to me and stuff, but shes never ever purposefully set out to hurt me as far as i can tell... read other posts and make your own minds up, but my opinions have changed about her, and maybe im just being foolish and sappy, but theres nothing i want more in this world than just to see her again :/

Tony has anti-social personality disorder. He was the "loveliest person when he was being nice" but u know what? Underneath all of that is the "real" person. The person that I know, the one who has no empathy, is selfish, is a liar, a cheat, a rockspider, abusive, aggressive, unreliable etc, shall I go on? U are the one who needs to make his mind up. No worries you want to see her again but is this conducive to good mind health for you? If so, do it. If not, you know what your options are. Ultimately, you
must make the decision for yourself. We all know that these people we have been involved with are people that we adore. It doesn't make them right for us. Good luck.