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Old 23rd July 2008, 4:56 PM   #1
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My jailed girlfriend blames ME?!

A couple of days ago, i waited 3 hours outside the county jail to pick up my loving girlfriend Donna. Instead of getting a relieved hug and a kiss i got screamed at, cursed at, and threatened to have my genitals ripped off. Here's what happened..

Me, Donna and her cousin Chuck(who's back from Iraq) go out to a bar to celebrate. We ran across some friends there and were having a great time. But Donna starts getting waaay too drunk, you know, starts blacking out. The bartender cuts her off and some how she was upsetting a few of the customers too. Eventually i overheard a guy talking to her about a party at his place and he leads her outside. Now me and Chuck know that Donna has a history of leaving bars alone to party with complete strangers and gotten into some pretty sticky situations. So we follow her outside and confront her. She swears she's not going to leave and she'll be right in. So we head in for one last drink. when we go back to look for her, she's gone! A quick look in the bar and she's not there either. Now i'm p*ssed. Yet again she's put herself in a dangerous situation by jumping into a strangers car. So me and chuck bounced. so once we get to my a call her cellphone....and my pocket rings! At some point someoone found her phone in the restroom and handed it to me.(yes i was wasted) It only took one call to the bar to find out that SHE'D BEEN ARRESTED! And you know the rest.

Turns out that after we left she accidentally bumped into someone? causing them to break a glass. The bartender actually told her "NOBODY WANTS YOU HERE!!" and then called the cops.

She's telling everyone she knows that the whole thing is MY fault! That i purposely left her there, then STOLE her phone so that she'd have no way back. She says that everyone is telling her to get a new boyfriend. really?! I say she had a pocket full of money and couldv'e called a cab or me or anyone! AND she got herself arrested.

I guess this question is for the girls. Is this really ALL my fault?
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Old 23rd July 2008, 4:59 PM   #2
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Yes, she should get a new boyfriend. You should thank the deity of your choice when she does

Well, that's a guy's opinion, not that you asked...
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Old 23rd July 2008, 5:03 PM   #3
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Yes, she should get a new boyfriend. You should thank the deity of your choice when she does
Agreed.

This is your 'get out of jail free' card (pun intended). Make good use of it!
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Old 23rd July 2008, 5:08 PM   #4
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you sound like a good guy, so yeah, it's your fault ... for sticking around a chick who finds it way too simple to blame you than to take responsibility for her behavior. Frankly, she sounds a bit too much trouble to have to put up with rude/bad behavior
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Old 23rd July 2008, 5:12 PM   #5
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Is this really ALL my fault?
No, but your gf is a loser....ditch her fast.
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Old 23rd July 2008, 5:18 PM   #6
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Yes, she should get a new boyfriend. You should thank the deity of your choice when she does
Agreed.

I'm a girl. No it was not your fault. You should be the one ditching her.
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Old 23rd July 2008, 5:19 PM   #7
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Why have you put up with this embarassing girl at all? Lose her quick before you lose your friends and YOU wind up in jail because of something she started while you're with her.
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Old 23rd July 2008, 5:42 PM   #8
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I don't think I'd be experimenting with that relationship nuance in the near future

Just had a flashback to Turner and Douglas and the "bald avenger" scene in "War of the Roses" LOL...
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Old 25th July 2008, 9:13 PM   #9
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Unless you want to end up like John Bobbit, you should dump this chick pronto.
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Old 25th July 2008, 9:40 PM   #10
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Yes this is partly your fault. I would be pissed too. Maybe she shouldn't have been drinking so much but why the f*ck would you leave her there so quickly. You guys shouldn't be together. Both of you should slow down on the drinking.

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Old 25th July 2008, 11:26 PM   #11
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I don't think this is your fault. Her drinking cannot be your responsibility.
When you all go out and decide to get loaded- each and everyone of you loses the ability to look after one another... If she has a history of getting drunk and doing stupid things- she needs to be the one to curtail how much she drinks.

I had one horrible night when I went out of town to a friend's b-day party. Everyone was really drunk, and my gf left early telling me that the rest of our friends were still in the bar and would bring me back to her place. Well.... the others were too drunk to remember and they thought I was with her and left. I ended up getting stranded in a strange city with no idea where I was, and my gf wasn't answering her cell because she was too drunk. We were all stupid- and we all abandoned one another because our judgement was clouded by the alcohol.

You can't be responsible for your girl getting hammered and causing a scene serious enough to get her arrested. How can people take on the responsibility of taking care of others when their judgement is just as impaired as the others?

Am I reading this right that she is your GF and was going to take off to a party with a bunch of strangers...presumably guys? That's lovely...
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