Well, i've been waking up miserable most mornings thinking of her. Hoping that she would contact me...
I'm going away tomorrow night, walking across the Alps for 10 days so i was out at lunch buying some new walking shoes..
Whilst out i was tempted to contact her (stupid i know) to see if she fancied lunch or something.. But of course i didn't because i said i wouldn't contact her anymore..
Anyway i got back to work and i had an email from her. My heart jumped.. It said..
Don't take this the wrong way...
Hi,
That's it really - I was just wondering how you were doing and wanted to say hi. I hope you're happy - and I hope this doesn't upset you or anything, wasn't meant to...
How's work? I'm going slowly mad here.
Hope you're good
Her name... x
Now here's my dilema.. Do i respond? Do i ignore? Do i just leave it until i get back from my vacation?
Well, i've been waking up miserable most mornings thinking of her. Hoping that she would contact me...
I'm going away tomorrow night, walking across the Alps for 10 days so i was out at lunch buying some new walking shoes..
Whilst out i was tempted to contact her (stupid i know) to see if she fancied lunch or something.. But of course i didn't because i said i wouldn't contact her anymore..
Anyway i got back to work and i had an email from her. My heart jumped.. It said..
Don't take this the wrong way...
Hi,
That's it really - I was just wondering how you were doing and wanted to say hi. I hope you're happy - and I hope this doesn't upset you or anything, wasn't meant to...
How's work? I'm going slowly mad here.
Hope you're good Her name... x
Now here's my dilema.. Do i respond? Do i ignore? Do i just leave it until i get back from my vacation?
Damn it..
Well, honestly, I would ingnore it for now. That email doesn't help you, doesn't give you what you want, it just brings back the feelings and memories.
If you respond now, you'll just be stting back waiting for a reply - which may or may not come, and may just be another one filled with netural pleasantry - which is somewhat worse.
Go on your trip, enjoy it. And when you're back, think about if you want to bother replying.
I know the temptation is great (trust me, I know), but you just get caught up in a game of email and wait and that really does set you back.
hey lifes life. Say hi.
You cared about each other. So long as you dont expect anything out of it just go with it. Your ex is reaching out to say hi, thats it... it's ok to be nice!
This NC thing - it has it's merits... but you dont have to stick to it like glue.
Treat her like an old friend and nothing more and everything is going to be cool.
I would just go and enjoy my trip. I would reply to the message once I'm back from the vacation, or even a few days after this.This will give you enough time to really decide whether or not you want to get your feelings caught up again.
__________________ Wise men profit more from fools than fools from wise men; for the wise men shun the mistakes of fools, but fools do not imitate the successes of the wise.Cato the Elder
I haven't replied yet but she has since sent another one..
Sorry
If my last email (or the subject of it) sounded rude or anything, I was just thinking about you and how you were doing so wanted to say hi - but was trying to stop it being a big deal and obviously it came out rude.
You can reply if you like!
If not, well I hope you're good. I've been poorly for a while and still feeling rubbish which is never fun so I hope you're better than me! Well maybe hear from you, maybe not...
Still don't reply until you come back from your vacation. She'll be alright until you get back. Enjoy yourself and worry about this back and forth stuff when you come back.
Aww man!!! Say hello. As i say, dont see anything in it.
its just saying hi, that is all.
I want to say hello, i want to wish her happiness.. but then i'm going to suffer. She ignored me for ages even accused me of stalking. Walked away from me (more than once) when i told her i loved her..
I want to write back and say nice things.. But then she'll **** me off again..
Still don't reply until you come back from your vacation. She'll be alright until you get back. Enjoy yourself and worry about this back and forth stuff when you come back.
So he can spend the whole trip thinking about what to say, should he say it…
Nope. Reply,.
That's it really - I was just wondering how you were doing and wanted to say hi. I hope you're happy - and I hope this doesn't upset you or anything, wasn't meant to...
How's work? I'm going slowly mad here.
Hope you're good Her name... x
IMO, that is one bitchy email. All she says is hi, and then has the temerity to think she has upset you. What the hell is her point here? I shall tell you.
Well, i've been waking up miserable most mornings thinking of her. Hoping that she would contact me...
I'm going away tomorrow night, walking across the Alps for 10 days so i was out at lunch buying some new walking shoes..
Whilst out i was tempted to contact her (stupid i know) to see if she fancied lunch or something.. But of course i didn't because i said i wouldn't contact her anymore..
Anyway i got back to work and i had an email from her. My heart jumped.. It said..
Don't take this the wrong way...
Hi,
That's it really - I was just wondering how you were doing and wanted to say hi. I hope you're happy - and I hope this doesn't upset you or anything, wasn't meant to...
How's work? I'm going slowly mad here.
Hope you're good
Her name... x
Now here's my dilema.. Do i respond? Do i ignore? Do i just leave it until i get back from my vacation?
Damn it..
This is how it always goes... they always show up at the wrong moment... just as you are about to move on with your life...
My ex contacted me while I was in Hawaii... and of course we got back together... and broke again.... If I could do it over I would ignore ignore...
Time to move on with your life... responding will only prolong your agony!
Considering the things she accused you of (stalking) and her attitude towards you during all this time, do you think she is worthy of a reply?
Sounds to me like she knows she treated you horribly and she knows it and is trying to ease HER conscience. She never once mentioned the way she treated you...just how she is feeling.
It's your call.Persoanlly I would have a hard time responding back to someone who treated me so ****ty, unless they showed repentence or remorse...which she has not. You can't TELL her she needs to apologize though, it must come from her.
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