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I have known my best friend and her family for years and they invited me to spend the weekend with them a couple of months when they were on holiday. I have been married for 8 years and the last few years have not been happy and I have been very unsettled. When I went away with my friend and her family, I got pretty drunk and slept with her brother. Everyone new about it the next day but they were ok about it saying that they new there had always been something between us. I left a couple of days later and arranged to contact my friends brother when he got back. We slept together again and felt really comfortable and happy with each other. The next day he phoned me and asked me to come over and said he couldn't deal with it because I am married and that we had to take a step back. I have been left in total turmoil as I really care for him and I can't stop thinking about him. I feel I have been blown off and am finding it hard to cope, any suggestions?
I have known my best friend and her family for years and they invited me to spend the weekend with them a couple of months when they were on holiday. I have been married for 8 years and the last few years have not been happy and I have been very unsettled. When I went away with my friend and her family, I got pretty drunk and slept with her brother. Everyone new about it the next day but they were ok about it saying that they new there had always been something between us. I left a couple of days later and arranged to contact my friends brother when he got back. We slept together again and felt really comfortable and happy with each other. The next day he phoned me and asked me to come over and said he couldn't deal with it because I am married and that we had to take a step back. I have been left in total turmoil as I really care for him and I can't stop thinking about him. I feel I have been blown off and am finding it hard to cope, any suggestions?
So you cheat on your husband, I don't care what your excuse is, and now you feel "blown off".
Since you obviously don't mention your husband in this post and show now remorse about what you did to him, what is it you are looking for here? Coddling that you got blown off after cheating on your husband?
Question is, with the obvious feelings you have for this OM, and the total disregard for your H, when are you going to get a divorce?
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Well to be fair, what she did sure as hell didn't command respect by disrespecting her husband. But I agree, I have no respect for cheaters, especially when they don't show remorse, but what he said was over the top.
I didn't even get to that point just yet. My head was spinning from all these offensive remarks, I just couldn't read. He hasn't recovered from his Bozshe GF, I think.
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Phoebe, looks like you're more depressed that this guy doesn't want you anymore than the fact that you cheated on your husband. So what did you want to do, I mean did you plan to continue with the affair while still married to your HB? It's not fair to him, you know.
It amazes me how people think they can go on like this and not be banned. In the whole time i have been here i have never seen a post so revolting as johnsons. You are one of the many reasons why i stay out of this part of the forum. I wish you a life full of disappointment and loneliness, i think you are up to the task.
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Wash me away, clean your body of me
Erase all the memories
They will only bring us pain
And I've seen all I'll ever need
He might not have the right to speak to her with such contempt, but he did and it was funny.
He's a good egg really, he's just standing up for his fellow brother. Women stick up for each other, so why can't men?
I don't mind men standing up for each other but I don't believe that is the way to do that. What is important, is that the OP's husband learns of his wife's infidelity. No one deserves to be kept in the dark about something like this.
However, I am afraid that what little chance there was that the OP is going to do the right thing and tell her husband, is now gone after Johnson25's tandrum.
BTW, when you/they had cognitive awareness of something, you/they "knew" it. I mention this because of "new" being used in its place repetitively in the OP.
Personally, since apparently there has been something simmering between the brother and yourself for some time, I'd go ahead and get hubby up to speed and contact a lawyer to ascertain your legal rights and responsibilities. You made a mistake by acting on those feelings; now it's your job to take responsibility for your actions. It's not going to be easy. If you choose to D, I'd suggest some alone time to get your head straight.
Not to belabor the obvious, but you're not a "whore". Prostitutes get paid for sex. That's something totally different....
If you need advice or support going forward, there is plenty of that to be had here. Just read the archives if you don't want to post....
I have known my best friend and her family for years and they invited me to spend the weekend with them a couple of months when they were on holiday. I have been married for 8 years and the last few years have not been happy and I have been very unsettled. When I went away with my friend and her family, I got pretty drunk and slept with her brother. Everyone new about it the next day but they were ok about it saying that they new there had always been something between us. I left a couple of days later and arranged to contact my friends brother when he got back. We slept together again and felt really comfortable and happy with each other. The next day he phoned me and asked me to come over and said he couldn't deal with it because I am married and that we had to take a step back. I have been left in total turmoil as I really care for him and I can't stop thinking about him. I feel I have been blown off and am finding it hard to cope, any suggestions?
Before you do anything else - Think about your husband. Do you want to stay married to him? Do you feel like you should divorce? Cheating on your husband is not a good idea at all - Whatever problems you have in your marriage is NOT going to be solved by you cheating.
I am GLAD that your bestfriends brother has told you that he needs to take a step back. HE is thinking because he knows you're married and it's a mistake to help someone cheat on their spouse.
Focus on your husband first, either fix your marriage or divorce. If you divorce, THEN go date your BF's brother. Until then, stay away and leave him alone.
Oh come on it's not like she's a saint. What she's doing is a thousand times more hurtful than a few names and in all fairness if she's not a slut then what is she? She cheats on her husband while away with her bestfriends family and doesn't care that other people know and we are suppose to feel sorry for her because she's in a low part of her marriage. I bet her husband funded her trip to
Oh come on it's not like she's a saint. What she's doing is a thousand times more hurtful than a few names and in all fairness if she's not a slut then what is she? She cheats on her husband while away with her bestfriends family and doesn't care that other people know and we are suppose to feel sorry for her because she's in a low part of her marriage. I bet her husband funded her trip to
Her actions do not make it appropriate to call her a whore or a slut. Not on this forum. If anyone doesn't like that then don't come here. Quite simple really.
Its not my fault she's a whore.
Tell her to stop ****ing & sucking people whom she is not married too.
She deserves whatever she gets.
The whore is not even remorseful.
She's actually UPSET that the OM called it off.
She deserves no sympathy.
Do I feel sorry for her if her husband divorces her and other men won't date her because she cheated in the past? Certainly not, those are consequences when you cheat. I don't even believe that cheaters are good people who simply made a mistake.
But there is a difference between having no sympathy for her and demeaning her. And I think that the way you reacted to her posts was demeaning.
Last edited by Stockalone; 22nd July 2008 at 7:21 PM.
Her actions do not make it appropriate to call her a whore or a slut. Not on this forum. If anyone doesn't like that then don't come here. Quite simple really.
Newbies.
Why not? Isn't it only natural to judge people by their actions or do we live in such a P.C. culture that this is no longer the case? If you don't like these comments than close your ears to them because everyone is entitled to their opinion as long as they are obeying the laws. You are correct it is quite simple
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