Arrgh! When not getting a call back happens to me!
While I was away on a three day camping trip with friends, I met this guy from a city somewhat far away from mine (this is Canada after all).
We really had fun together, ended up sleeping together (under the stars it was amazing) and, once we were back in civilisation, we met for breakfast and, again, had a great time (no sex - just conversation). We exchanged emails and phone numbers and yes, I'll admit, I was sure he was going to keep in touch.
No dice. I wrote him one email where I basically said I was happy to have met him. He hasn't answered (I sent it last week).
I know what I would tell someone in my situation: ah well, you had fun, you don't know why he isn't replying, but obviously you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you. Besides, he doesn't live in the same city I do so it's not like much could have come out of it. But still, it s" ks when it happens to you.
On a sidenote, the sex was amazing. Best I ever had by a long mile.
ah well, you had fun, you don't know why he isn't replying, but obviously you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you. Besides, he doesn't live in the same city I do so it's not like much could have come out of it. But still, it s" ks when it happens to you.
Well said...
A ONS isn't necessarily supposed to work it's way into a relationship.. Just enjoy the memory and if you both get together in the future for more then that is just icing on the cake...
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A ONS isn't necessarily supposed to work it's way into a relationship.. Just enjoy the memory and if you both get together in the future for more then that is just icing on the cake...
Just chalk it up as an ego booster- you ARE hot and worthy of being sh*gged under the stars, and who knows, maybe things would have turned out different if you had been from the same city, but you aren't so c'est la vie.
I had a ONS just before I met wonderboy. It was an itch that had to be scratched, and there were no callbacks. Glad I got it out of my system before I met WB.
I think he's not interested because you guys live so far away from each other. You don't know what his circumstances are. Also, the mystery may be gone for him because you guys slept together so fast. It shouldn't be that way, but it seems like it often is.
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Don't get too worked up he didn't get back to you.
Practically as he lives quite far away, in your own words, not a lot could have really happened anyway could it.
There are so many reasons why people don't get back to you. Its not big deal. There are so many people out there who are ideal for you, more than you'll ever get chance to meet, so its never a good idea to let 1 person get you down, just move on the next!
Just chalk it up as an ego booster- you ARE hot and worthy of being sh*gged under the stars, and who knows, maybe things would have turned out different if you had been from the same city, but you aren't so c'est la vie.
I had a ONS just before I met wonderboy. It was an itch that had to be scratched, and there were no callbacks. Glad I got it out of my system before I met WB.
I think I also wanted the added ego-stroke of having a guy who lives thousands of kilometers away chase me. Plus he was so cute and he really made me laugh. And he smelled delicious, even after three days of camping (pheromones). And, let me repeat, the sex was amazing. I didn't know I was quite that multi-orgasmic or that orgasms could last that long.
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There are so many reasons why people don't get back to you. Its not big deal. There are so many people out there who are ideal for you, more than you'll ever get chance to meet, so its never a good idea to let 1 person get you down, just move on the next!
Thanks Verve, great perspective. Plus, the good news is: I'm over the ex.
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Also, the mystery may be gone for him because you guys slept together so fast. It shouldn't be that way, but it seems like it often is.
That crossed my mind. But whatever, that one night was well worth it.
I will be in his neck of the woods in a couple of weeks. I'm thinking of giving him a call to see what he's up too at that time... Opinions?
Just chalk it up as an ego booster- you ARE hot and worthy of being sh*gged under the stars, and who knows, maybe things would have turned out different if you had been from the same city, but you aren't so c'est la vie.
I had a ONS just before I met wonderboy. It was an itch that had to be scratched, and there were no callbacks. Glad I got it out of my system before I met WB.
Love this post.
Glad you got some lovin' under the stars, K. I'm sure things would be different if you lived in the same city.
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I wouldn't call him. He didn't reply to your e-mail, or call you. Common courtesy would have it to at least reply to that e-mail.
If he answers friendly to a call, then because he things he might "get some".
Just my opinion.
To be honest, I would be calling mainly to "get some" myself. I just hope he is really single, which he said he was. I'm saying in his case, and considering the situation, I am not radically opposed to being booty call. Or calling to offer booty, as the case may be.
Call him if you are in town- if you are OK with being a booty call, then go for it!
At least the walls will be thicker.... your poor friends! Its so hard to stay quiet when you are having sex in a tent.
No no, we weren't in a tent - we slept out some ways down a trail, zipping our slipping bags together, under the stars. He was afraid of getting attacked by beavers (Nemo, this one is all yours!). Some friends said they still thought they heard us though. (We were by a fresh water spring that was quite noisy).
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I had the feeling that you were interested in a bit more, maybe. Have fun!
I just had such a great time with him. I mean, I have no idea if we would translate into anything in our day to day life, plus there's little chance of finding out since we live far from each other. But yeah, I would like to see him again, know what I mean? I guess he doesn't need more, and I need to take that into consideration.
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I'm sure things would be different if you lived in the same city.
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