It's only been 5 days of NC and I'm breaking down already and struggling to keep it up. I was at the angry pissed off stage during these five days so it wasn't so bad, but now that my anger is decreasing I'm getting back to sad, depressed and lonely.
I keep listening to breakup songs! Why do people like to listen to sad songs when they're sad?
It's so hard because he is just a call or text away and he'll take me back AS A FRIEND! And apparently, after we broke up but we were still keeping in contact, FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS!!!! But I can't do that anymore, because it gave me hope that he would change his mind and after talking to him 5 days ago, he seems to be completely over it.
It's so hard to say goodbye to everything that you've know for 7 years... To forget about the main thing that brought you the most happiness and to let it go seems impossible... I was going to marry this man, we had names picked out for our children...He said it would be forever and when he took it all back, when he fell out of love with me and turned my world upside down and destroyed my future I was looking forward to
And after all this, how will I trust in true love again? How will I trust anyone? How can I believe in love and marriage or in any relationship when I thought what we had was close to perfect and that was taken away so easily? How do I go on? How will be happy again? HOW?????
it sucks i know the best advice i can say is that the early days of NC are the hardest. once time has gone by, believe me it gets easier.
everything moves on and changes, you will be happy again it just takes time. dont try and be happy. it just wont work. feel all the emotions you are feeling and learn how to accept them.
how old are you if you dont mind me asking?
please take it easy, i know how soul destroying it all is.
it sucks i know the best advice i can say is that the early days of NC are the hardest. once time has gone by, believe me it gets easier.
everything moves on and changes, you will be happy again it just takes time. dont try and be happy. it just wont work. feel all the emotions you are feeling and learn how to accept them.
how old are you if you dont mind me asking?
please take it easy, i know how soul destroying it all is.
post here when ever you need to
xx
yea it definately does get easier the whole NC thing I remember tossing and turning in my bed. plus I was in school last semester so it made studying super uber hard. I had to force myself to not fail my classes that I worked super hard in already. I have been NC for about 3 months not its definatley easier the more time your in it. but like you I am in the same boat I dont trust nor do I want to anymore. we were engaged too I still want the ring back lol I know I wont get it back but meh sure its a loss of 1500 but rather let her keep it then break the NC. anyways hope you get through this. and you picked the right place ppl here in LS are great and all understand. if it helps listen to Bullet for my valentine or Silverstein 2 of the greatest bands but definately make you mad so you can ACTUALLY keep up with the NC ...lol helps for me ^_^
hi op.. believe me it does get easier in time..
tell yourself you are going get through this.. you are worth so much more than fwb.. you are also helping him get over you if you continue the fwb..
you did right to stop.. believe me i miss my ex so much.. miss being close.. everything .. but its over
you need to stop the sad songs
only listen to upbeat or funny songs, get out.. get busy
change your routine.. delete his number
start by helping yourself and you will start to feel better it just takes time
hugs to you x
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I know exactly how you feel. All I can say is to hang in there. Trust that you'll get over this person. Enjoy yourself. Pamper yourself. Listen to upbeat music. Eat good food, and watch movies you enjoy.
If I've learned anything from LS, it is to value yourself more than anything or anyone. Everyone struggles from time to ttime, but it is everyone's own responsibility to handle that struggle. No one can do it for you. Take care.
It's only been 5 days of NC and I'm breaking down already and struggling to keep it up. I was at the angry pissed off stage during these five days so it wasn't so bad, but now that my anger is decreasing I'm getting back to sad, depressed and lonely.
I keep listening to breakup songs! Why do people like to listen to sad songs when they're sad?
It's so hard because he is just a call or text away and he'll take me back AS A FRIEND! And apparently, after we broke up but we were still keeping in contact, FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS!!!! But I can't do that anymore, because it gave me hope that he would change his mind and after talking to him 5 days ago, he seems to be completely over it.
It's so hard to say goodbye to everything that you've know for 7 years... To forget about the main thing that brought you the most happiness and to let it go seems impossible... I was going to marry this man, we had names picked out for our children...He said it would be forever and when he took it all back, when he fell out of love with me and turned my world upside down and destroyed my future I was looking forward to
And after all this, how will I trust in true love again? How will I trust anyone? How can I believe in love and marriage or in any relationship when I thought what we had was close to perfect and that was taken away so easily? How do I go on? How will be happy again? HOW?????
It's a cruel thing Lynn.. I went through a similar experience, and I really didn't know how I was going to make it through. Even up until now, more than three months afterwards, I'm still hurting. Some days, are a struggle to get through, but it does get better. I know that doesn't provide much comfort at this point, but you will need to believe that time will heal, if you let it.
When you love someone and treat them well, it doesn't make sense they should not want it. The rejection is hard to swallow, I know. There are no easy answers, but the truth is that you don't need someone who doesn't want you. You deserve better.
Hang in there, and use this forum for support. We're here to help.
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the best advice i can say is that the early days of NC are the hardest. once time has gone by, believe me it gets easier.
new year new me! no more tears for jerks
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