[Mahatma]

I'm just curious what you women do/would do with your engagement rings if you were to break up with your fiance. Would you keep it, or return it to him? Does it depend on what the breakup was over/who's fault it was or if he cheated? It seems like many women don't enjoy giving the rings back no matter the circumstance and some don't think its morally right to keep it.

[Lauriebell82]

Originally Posted by Mahatma

I'm just curious what you women do/would do with your engagement rings if you were to break up with your fiance. Would you keep it, or return it to him? Does it depend on what the breakup was over/who's fault it was or if he cheated? It seems like many women don't enjoy giving the rings back no matter the circumstance and some don't think its morally right to keep it.

I think that if you are the one who ended the engagement then you should give it back. If HE broke up with you, then it would be up to you whether or not to give it back. I personally would give it back even if he was the one who broke up with me, mainly because seeing it all the time would make it harder for me to get over the breakup.

I personally would give the ring back no matter who ended the engagement. I couldn't stand to see a constant reminder of something that had hurt me so much.

[sb129]

I agree with LB. If you broke up with him, you should give it back.

[O'Malley]

I usually agree that whoever ended the engagement should give the ring back.

However, a longtime of mine ended her relationship with her fiance when she found out he had notifed his family, the caterers and wedding planner that he was postponing the wedding for 5 months. However, he neglected to notify my friend about all of this---she found out only when the wedding planner and caterers both called her to confirm the postponement. Instead of postponing the wedding, she canceled it entirely. She kept the ring, and I couldn't blame her.

[Enema]

Saw an episode like this on Judge Judy.

She said if you're engaged, you have to give it back. If you're married, you can keep it.

[Chinook]

I gave mine back.

Mainly because we'd chosen it together, we'd taken it to be altered when I lost alot of weight. It was something which was special to us both. I couldn't bear to have it in the house. He hurt me, I wanted him to have the burden of it. I believe to this day he still hasn't been able to get rid of it (so he says).

[solo_flyer]

Here in Ontario, the law is quite clear:

http://www.e-laws.gov.on.ca/html/sta...es_90m03_e.htm

Recovery of gifts made in contemplation of marriage

33. Where one person makes a gift to another in contemplation of or conditional upon their marriage to each other and the marriage fails to take place or is abandoned, the question of whether or not the failure or abandonment was caused by or was the fault of the donor shall not be considered in determining the right of the donor to recover the gift. R.S.O. 1990, c. M.3, s. 33.


In many states, the return of the ring is required by law:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/in...1181956AAougHD