I'm having second thoughts about going out with six pack guy. The fact that he was persistant in meeting up was kind of a turn off. Also, he makes it so that he always has to bring up the fact that he finds certain girls hot, or bringing the subject up about where he spent the night before. Like the day before, he told me he dropped by his female workers place for a drink and ended up spending the night, which he cleared up by saying he slept on the couch.
Also, we never really talk much, all we do is im each other back and forth over AIM. He has my number but he never makes it a point to actually pick up the phone to ask me how I am. We are not exclusive, and I don't really see the need to be. Anyways, now I'm thinking of excuses to cancel, unless you guys are suggesting that I change my mind.
I think you should cancel - NOT because of anything about him, but only because you consistently seem to be looking for reasons to dump him. He clearly isn't doing it for you, X, so, since you've already written the script, of sorts, I vote just tear off the band-aid and end it already.
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I think you should cancel - NOT because of anything about him, but only because you consistently seem to be looking for reasons to dump him. He clearly isn't doing it for you, X, so, since you've already written the script, of sorts, I vote just tear off the band-aid and end it already.
Jilly i understand what you're saying. But given you were in my position wouldn't you be reluctant as well after finding out he has a girl to hang out with every day of the week, and you're just Saturday?
Some women find men with women all over them more attractive, since they want to be the one to "captivate and capture", attaining the "trophy".
Other women find this type of behaviour abhorrent.
You decide which type of woman you are.
Any guys reading, just swap genders.
You make it sound like a game.
I'm the type that will work her ass off if she feels that it's worth fighting for. But I find it kind of hard to fight for a guy's attention. In regards to relationships, I'm the type that gets jealous easily, and when I'm hurt I tend to want hurt the person back.
The thing with six pack guy and me is there's alot of attraction between us. But I feel like the tension comes from the fact that we're obliviously playing games with each other and trying to make each other jealous.
He has accused me on occasion of playing around with him, and he gets confrontational when he thinks I might like or is seeing someone else. But then the same goes for me, when he brings up the fact that he wants to hook up with his friend's friend or constantly has girls hitting on him. I try to be nonchalant about this, but deep down I'm extremely bitter that he's talking to me about it.
I'm the type that will work her ass off if she feels that it's worth fighting for. But I find it kind of hard to fight for a guy's attention. In regards to relationships, I'm the type that gets jealous easily, and when I'm hurt I tend to want hurt the person back.
The thing with six pack guy and me is there's alot of attraction between us. But I feel like the tension comes from the fact that we're obliviously playing games with each other and trying to make each other jealous.
He has accused me on occasion of playing around with him, and he gets confrontational when he thinks I might like or is seeing someone else. But then the same goes for me, when he brings up the fact that he wants to hook up with his friend's friend or constantly has girls hitting on him. I try to be nonchalant about this, but deep down I'm extremely bitter that he's talking to me about it.
Have you considered stepping down from the game? You know you can do it anytime, don't you?
Have you considered stepping down from the game? You know you can do it anytime, don't you?
I thought I had done that. When he asks me about my friends or what guys I like, I was very honest. I told me him most of my friends are girls, and I judge a guy on his personality first rather than his looks.
But he would always bring up something that sounds confrontational. Like who was the guy that commented my myspace, or maybe the myspace guy likes me. And I had to fight his accusatory tone with a tone the guy's just a friend, or the guy probably is in a relationship.
Yet when it comes to him, he brings up his friend, Ayumi ( Japanese girl), or his coworker, or his friend who his going to the beach with, or how when he was still living in Japan, he was always asking girls out. Which in turn just makes me want to bring up my guy friends since he likes talking about his so much.
I thought I had done that. When he asks me about my friends or what guys I like, I was very honest. I told me him most of my friends are girls, and I judge a guy on his personality first rather than his looks.
But he would always bring up something that sounds confrontational. Like who was the guy that commented my myspace, or maybe the myspace guy likes me. And I had to fight his accusatory tone with a tone the guy's just a friend, or the guy probably is in a relationship.
Yet when it comes to him, he brings up his friend, Ayumi ( Japanese girl), or his coworker, or his friend who his going to the beach with, or how when he was still living in Japan, he was always asking girls out. Which in turn just makes me want to bring up my guy friends since he likes talking about his so much.
Here's a suggested approach to stepping down from the game.
"You appear to be a guy who finds a lot of women attractive, therefore in my mind, potentially a high risk candidate. Is this true or are you playing a game with me?"
Here's a suggested approach to stepping down from the game.
"You appear to be a guy who finds a lot of women attractive, therefore in my mind, potentially a high risk candidate. Is this true or are you playing a game with me?"
alright thanks TBF i'll try that one... but is this going to make him stop?
alright thanks TBF i'll try that one... but is this going to make him stop?
He's going to do one of two things:
Agree with you that yes, he has a lot of options, for which you can react as you see fit. My personal reaction would be to cancel the date because he's telling you upfront how he will continue to behave in the future. I wouldn't decline the date in a miffy way, more, "thanks for being honest with me."
Sixpack guy sounds a bit insecure. And I don't mean to comment on his eligibility in noting that. He just comes across as insecure hence the games and playing it cool. Once you get past the games he could be lovely. When you're attractive sometimes shyness or insecurity can come across as being aloof.
Yeah, I wouldn't suggest asking him if he's playing you. If he is, he certainly won't admit to it, and it will just make you look foolish.
X, you're no dummy. If you really feel that this guy has a ton of women, and you only day 6 entertainment, and you are seeking something deeper right off, then I still vote to drop him. It just seems like a lot of struggle over someone you are kinda lukewarm over.
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