[trubella]

I recently had a close cousin of mine come to me for advice about her fiance.
This isnt the first time she has come to me for support/feedback about her SO, and i will admit i would openly judge her fiance just from what she would tell me about him in the past.

but for the most part im usually there to listen and offer a shoulder to cry on, occasionally giving advice/suggestions.

but when she asked me this time around what i thought about the problem shes having with her R, i couldnt bring myself to help her knowing that my R isnt exactly perfect lately.. i feel like a hypocrite

i just feel like im the last person to dish out love advice let alone judge someones R, but i get alot of family and friends wanting my feedback and i dont feel like i can give them that most of the time, even here at LS, ive noticed chronically single ppl & ppl in not-so-good relationships putting in their 2 cents and i have to wonder are some of us really qualified to do that.

I've had my own share of judgements from ppl bashing my R who shouldnt be in the position to judge and I myself have judged others, but now im starting to reflect back and change the way i approach people who ask for support now.