Who does this kind of thing?

sas218 · 18th July 2008, 11:44 AM

I just cant put all these conflicting things together. He broke up with me and he moved onto someone else's bed within a month of our breakup. But the moment he finds out that I am out with someone else, he is on the phone. He wants to know who I am out with, what I did, and if I am still on birth control. Who does this and why does he care, he was the one that ended it. He then gets mad and hangs up because I tell him that we arent gonna get back together and I am doing ok with that.

BigBelm · 18th July 2008, 5:01 PM

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Originally Posted by sas218

I just cant put all these conflicting things together. He broke up with me and he moved onto someone else's bed within a month of our breakup. But the moment he finds out that I am out with someone else, he is on the phone. He wants to know who I am out with, what I did, and if I am still on birth control. Who does this and why does he care, he was the one that ended it. He then gets mad and hangs up because I tell him that we arent gonna get back together and I am doing ok with that.

maybe be because he hasnt dealt with his grief over the break up by distracting himself with another woman. That often means that the issues hes been left with he hasnt dealt with and the feelings have not been expressed and got out of his system - even as the one who ended it and him thinking ending things was the right thing to do. People who jump straight into others beds havent had time and space to understand what happened so they are sure, but still hold onto their negative feelings which confuses them

you carry on moving on, and dont entertain any calls from him or it will set your recovery back.

sas218 · 20th July 2008, 11:26 AM

So he called last night and asked me what this was all about. I told him I had no idea what he was talking about. He said sure you do and I said really I don't. He then explained that he got a call saying that I was pregnant with twins. I told him I wasn't and that I have no idea where this phone call came from. He asked if I was sure. I told him it would be pretty impossible since he was the last person that I slept with. He then said so they could be my kids. I told him again that I wasn't pregnant. He said that he was going to call and ask my parents if I was pregnant but he had deleted my home number from his phone. I told him that it probably wouldn't be the smartest idea to call my house. All the time, I could hear his "benefits buddy" talking in the background. Who calls their ex in front of their "new friend". He sounded kinda crazy. I seriously think he makes up these stories just so he can see my reaction...

sas218 · 20th July 2008, 8:15 PM

Can anyone figure this guy out?

kizik · 20th July 2008, 9:50 PM

Wow, what a grade A jackass to have called you like that! Even more surprising is that you went along and played his game, like, "No, I'm not pregnant with twins!"

This guy is CRAZY and you sound a bit... confused yourself. An idea: how bout not answering the next time he calls? Maybe realizing that you are a special person who does not need to hurt herself by talking to a controlling FREAK who demands to know if his ex is on birth control, and confronts you with "Are you pregnant?"

Wake up, you're dealing with a HUGE AS*HOLE!