[dartanyan]

Hi,
I'm curious if anyone has any experience dealing with a relationship where there is a significant difference in past partners. Is it an issue, how does it work out?

In my case my gf and i are similar ages (28) - she's had a much wilder past than mine and so has racked them up having close to 20 past partners.

I have had 5, it never bothered me before but I feel 'inadequate' compared to her.

My main question is if others have experienced this how does it play out. I love her and we are serious. I worry though that i will go on the rest of my life (if we stay together) feeling like i've missed out, or got less than she.

Is this a guy thing?

How to deal with it?

thanks.

[JustinWolf]

You could talk about it to her and how you feel but honnestly, you will forget about it and you will continue on your life with her if it works out. Also, I believe it's normal the way you feel because I wouldn't want my partner to have had a lot of partners in the past but then again I'd get over it.

There's no real way to deal with it... I've never had that but I'm sure maybe some other LS'ers may give you a tip or two.

[Kamille]

Dartanyan - how lucky you are to have found someone to love who loves you back.

I'm going to link your question here to your question in my thread (about what made that ONS so special).

The guy I had the ONS with revealed that he was lucky enough to have a great girlfriend when he was 18 years old, and that they both experimented a lot. I know you and you gf are older, but I don't think it changes the dynamic at all. Good sex is quality not quantity.

My advice? Don't be afraid to experiment together. What happens between your gf and you is unique to the two of you.

[AdrianaLima]

Me and my SO has a gap difference in our sex partners. It doesn't bother me none at all. That was the past, and I can't do anything about it. You can't change it.We didn't know one another back then. As long as she's healthy, that's the bottom line.