I had a really good long talk with an older and most trusted friend. I'm swearing off dating for the next two years. I'm going to focus on my business aspirations instead and not deal with the daily distractions of love and relationships. As much as being in love is great it's also a damn headache and I think with my last relationship I got a migraine to last me for a long, long time. Hell, I might even decide to go single for longer- it will give me time to heal from this last conundram, put my time and energy and mental power into something constructive and productive and get me out of that mentality of "the hunt". I'm just going to build my life all over again and the foundation will be me. I think a few years will also give me more time to ripen, to mature, to learn from mistakes of the past and to wisen myself in general.
That's a pretty good idea. Wow 2 years huh? I was thinking about 4 months for me, until at least I get my career started and have my own place. I am a guy and I don't know how I can go without sex for that long... Would random one night stands work?
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I am sick of trying, I am sick of crying, I know I am smiling, but inside I am dying - some old poet
LOL. Well, This seems to have been the best decision I made in awhile. I'm not sure why, I just feel so..free all of the sudden. Not burdened, not confined by my ex anymore.I'm not sure what it is or why, oh hell who knows? Maybe I'm just all cried out by now. I just spent an amazing four hours learning stuff in regards to the career path I want to take. Ah, it was like seeing color all over again! No more distractions! No more nagging ex thoughts. No more- oh how could you break up with me after I was so wonderful to you- It was more like, wow- so you're a real dumb*ss.
I am glad your taking charge of your life. It's long overdue and I need to do the same. It's nice to hear about how well it's going for you. I am still in a mess and I hope one day I can see the colors again too. Being emotionally drained over some decision I had no say in, sucks! But like you I am finally making my own decisions. So stay strong! Thanks for some inspiration
I am glad your taking charge of your life. It's long overdue and I need to do the same. It's nice to hear about how well it's going for you. I am still in a mess and I hope one day I can see the colors again too. Being emotionally drained over some decision I had no say in, sucks! But like you I am finally making my own decisions. So stay strong! Thanks for some inspiration
Well, it is more than possible to make lemonade when life gives us lemons.Or..when we date them .
I had a really good long talk with an older and most trusted friend. I'm swearing off dating for the next two years. I'm going to focus on my business aspirations instead and not deal with the daily distractions of love and relationships. As much as being in love is great it's also a damn headache and I think with my last relationship I got a migraine to last me for a long, long time. Hell, I might even decide to go single for longer- it will give me time to heal from this last conundram, put my time and energy and mental power into something constructive and productive and get me out of that mentality of "the hunt". I'm just going to build my life all over again and the foundation will be me. I think a few years will also give me more time to ripen, to mature, to learn from mistakes of the past and to wisen myself in general.
No more headaches, gah!
Ah yeah good luck with that. My now sort of future boyfriend went thru this exact same phase. sadly it was right when he started dating. he threw out the celibacy fast. but said oh he was sooooooooooo hurt by other chicks thta he WOULDNT have any relationships for years to come.
So that mad eme me pull way back feleing anything more than sexual with him.
But the GODS have asublime sense of humor......So now he does have deep feelings for me and regrets ever kicking off our first date by telling me he wasnt looking for the ONE.
Now he has to wait for me to warm up to him again .......And so I RECENTLY swore off him adn all guys.......Ofcourse the next day he asks what am I doing and where am I going for vacation. He keeps getting into my life and still cares.
Anyway Ive seen it so many times. the minute you swear off love it COMES A ROARING.
That's a pretty good idea. Wow 2 years huh? I was thinking about 4 months for me, until at least I get my career started and have my own place. I am a guy and I don't know how I can go without sex for that long... Would random one night stands work?
Yes two years. ouch.... Im waiting 5 more weeks and even that seems scary long.
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