[cjanee]

So he texted me today early morning while I was at work. He tried to pretend like everything was normal that I don't know he went away with his ex who I now believe is his girlfriend and has been all along. He wanted to know if I was going to a co workers wedding. He said I would have to stay with him on the island since there was no place to stay on the island.

He became really persistent and eager to know if I was going. I thought you make me sick! He actually thinks I still don't know about her. For those of you who don't know he went away camping this weekend with his ex that he travels all over the world with (in the name of friendship), I found her status on facebook acknowledging the camp trip the same time he called me to say goodbye. I asked him if she was going on the trip with him. He of course flat out denied it.

Anyways I just couldnt resist today . When I think of all the lies and tricks he has played on me over the two years and all the games and bull **** he has fed me to keep me on his string I don't think its so bad to put him on a string. I told him that I had a friend on the island and that he should go ahead and invite his "friend," I then texted and said maybe I will finally meet your friend (two years never met her or any of his friends because he did not want commitment). He did not return my text which is odd usually he has some sarcastic comeback. Anyways 6 hours later I get so are you coming? I text back dont worry about me go ahead and invite a guest I might see you there I might not. I hope he is squirming in his boots right now. God I am so angry!! how could I let myself get so played and for so long!!!! Well there s no reason to talk to him now. Will I guess I will start the NC again.

[showupbutbroken]

The best revenge is living well. Find a hot date to take or just go single and have the best time of your life. You deserve it, he is slime!

[Meaplus3]

Originally Posted by cjanee

So he texted me today early morning while I was at work. He tried to pretend like everything was normal that I don't know he went away with his ex who I now believe is his girlfriend and has been all along. He wanted to know if I was going to a co workers wedding. He said I would have to stay with him on the island since there was no place to stay on the island.

He became really persistent and eager to know if I was going. I thought you make me sick! He actually thinks I still don't know about her. For those of you who don't know he went away camping this weekend with his ex that he travels all over the world with (in the name of friendship), I found her status on facebook acknowledging the camp trip the same time he called me to say goodbye. I asked him if she was going on the trip with him. He of course flat out denied it.

Anyways I just couldnt resist today . When I think of all the lies and tricks he has played on me over the two years and all the games and bull **** he has fed me to keep me on his string I don't think its so bad to put him on a string. I told him that I had a friend on the island and that he should go ahead and invite his "friend," I then texted and said maybe I will finally meet your friend (two years never met her or any of his friends because he did not want commitment). He did not return my text which is odd usually he has some sarcastic comeback. Anyways 6 hours later I get so are you coming? I text back dont worry about me go ahead and invite a guest I might see you there I might not. I hope he is squirming in his boots right now. God I am so angry!! how could I let myself get so played and for so long!!!! Well there s no reason to talk to him now. Will I guess I will start the NC again.

I would simply not contact him any further. Do go to the wedding and enjoy yourself.. but ignore him. When he sees you having a good time... then he will see what he was missing out on. Best wishes.

AP

[Lucky555]

I know how you feel about being played...GET A HOTTER GUY and keep moving on.

[astra77]

Being played is the worst feeling in the world - how do you deal with that ??? I used to be a confident girl or so i thought and now i just feel so stupid. It hurts so bad it almost chokes me to death somedays

[cjanee]

Originally Posted by Meaplus3

I would simply not contact him any further. Do go to the wedding and enjoy yourself.. but ignore him. When he sees you having a good time... then he will see what he was missing out on. Best wishes.

AP

Hey thanks for that advice..
It's hard though because he simply does not stop contacting me. Sometimes months will go by when he decides he wants a break and then he starts up again. We work together which makes it worse. I am looking for other work. It's just such a terrible situation

[cjanee]

Originally Posted by astra77

Being played is the worst feeling in the world - how do you deal with that ??? I used to be a confident girl or so i thought and now i just feel so stupid. It hurts so bad it almost chokes me to death somedays

Yes being played is the worst feeling in the world. I woke up last night for the first time in years with a panic attack. I realized he was gone not because he was gone but because I knew that for my own sanity and peace of mind he needed to be and had to be gone! It scared the crap out of me for some reason?

Then I woke up angry/furious that this idiot thinks that he is getting away with it and I can't say anything because he will just deny the whole thing and then we will fight and then I have to deal with his ugliness at work again when he gets back from vacation.!

[cjanee]

Originally Posted by Lucky555

I know how you feel about being played...GET A HOTTER GUY and keep moving on.

Yeah Lets hope he arrives soon... and after I have lost 10 pounds

[Owl]

If you dont' want him to contact you anymore...tell him that point blank. And tell him that if he contacts you again, you'll go to the police.

You really can do that...once you've told him that you no longer want ANY contact with him...it becomes stalking if he continues.

You could also change your contact information if possible...new email/IM accts, new cell phone/home phone...etc...

You need to be a total b!7CH to him about the no contact to get the message through...you see, he's learned that he CAN get you to resume contact. You need to change YOUR response to his approaches so that he no longer gets what he wants when he texts you...a response.

[serliana7]

Don't allow yourself to get played by him any longer, infact he's not even being clever with his lies!

I had to do the degrading thing of confessing the full extent of my situation to my parents as I was being so lame with NC, I'd turned into a weak fool, extending and re-extending deadlines, consequently my Dad confiscated my phone (permanently), answered MM's calls and told him in no uncertain terms to stay well away from me whilst still living with his wife. This has been really effective and I feel a million times better.

I really feel if you are being persistently bugged by him and you are falling into the cycle of bull sh*t time and time again the best thing to do is either (a) involve someone he wont mess with or (b) change your number.
If you work with him, change jobs, Personally I would put creating the opportunity for a healthy, normal relationship as more important than career.

Best of luck cjanee, really hope you can shake him off soon and find the amazing, funny, hot single guy who is out there somewhere waiting for you (and when you find him, send his twin brother in my direction!)