Cheating, Flirting, and JealousyBeing unfaithful to your significant other or suspect them of the same? Can't stand the way they flirt? Jealous? Discuss your experiences here.
I've heard this on here a few times, where someone will make a blanket statement that "She's the cheater type".
I was wondering, what is that type? Not who they are after they've cheated on someone, but the characteristics of a person before they cheat? What are the personality traits, characteristics, emotional makeup of "the cheater type"? Could you pick them out at a young age (teens), and say "That person is the cheater type" based on certain personality traits? And what would those be?
Would you be in favor of testing people for traits that are prone to cheaters? What if there was a genetic test that would prove this, would you want your partner tested?
Hmm, that's an interesting subject. Actually there are scales that are used to detect morals and values. There are probably a lot of articles out there reflecting the results of certain studies conducted on those individuals who have had affairs/cheat.
In my own opinion, I don't know if there are people that are more "prone" to cheating then others. I'd say if they are fairly permiscuous ("sleep around") then they may be prone to cheat if becoming involved in a monogomous relationship.
Also it may be a question of poor impulse control problems. You see that with a lot of the addicts that I work with, most of them have had affairs at some point. I think it may be just trouble controlling urges to have sex with someone that they are attracted to other than their partner.
Would you be in favor of testing people for traits that are prone to cheaters? What if there was a genetic test that would prove this, would you want your partner tested?
YOU BET!!!
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I was just thinking about infidelity. I always thought I was a moral person, but I noticed when I was with my ex, I had a tendency to flirt with other guys. I think it was because relationships get boring and we all need a challenge at times.
I also remember that when we went on a week break, I went out with my gfs and give another guy a bj.
I just found an interesting website on cheating. It even gives a quiz at the bottom which "tests" how likely your partner is to cheat by answering questions about you (the test is compared to others who have cheated). I'm in the middle of taking it now, its fun!
Maybe the cheater gene could be isolated and we would know at birth.
The convo right after birth..
I'm sorry Mr & Mrs So and So..
Your newborn baby will have to undergo therapy at the age of dating in order to learn basic relationship comprehension.
His gene type matched that of a serial cheater..
Not to worry though.. according to the report he will only cheat 3 times with different women and then he will be committed to his partner
I always look for people like my Dad.. or his traits.. normally those type are cheaters..
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Here's a few characteristics for the cheaters list which requires mixing and matching per individual:
Selfish.
Flexible or non-existent personal boundaries.
Risk-taker.
Fear of aging.
Requires a lot of external validation.
Could I tell immediately if someone was a cheater? No. It would take getting to know the person for awhile before I could tell but even then, nothing is fool proof.
YES, YES, YES!! I would so demand that anyone of interest, take the test. It's like drawing the personal boundary for STDs. You require proof of clean!
Here's a few characteristics for the cheaters list which requires mixing and matching per individual:
Selfish.
Flexible or non-existent personal boundaries.
Risk-taker.
Fear of aging.
Requires a lot of external validation.
Could I tell immediately if someone was a cheater? No. It would take getting to know the person for awhile before I could tell but even then, nothing is fool proof.
YES, YES, YES!! I would so demand that anyone of interest, take the test. It's like drawing the personal boundary for STDs. You require proof of clean!
I just took the quiz that I put in my post. It says that there is a moderate risk for cheating, on the low end though. It does list the factors that are at risk for cheating. Mostly it gave the score because my boyfriend and I do spend SOME time apart and we are both attractive and have traits in demand for partners. I don't know about that, I am 100 % certain that he would never cheat on me nor would I. I'm unsure how accurate that test really is.
I just took the quiz that I put in my post. It says that there is a moderate risk for cheating, on the low end though. It does list the factors that are at risk for cheating. Mostly it gave the score because my boyfriend and I do spend SOME time apart and we are both attractive and have traits in demand for partners. I don't know about that, I am 100 % certain that he would never cheat on me nor would I. I'm unsure how accurate that test really is.
I'll have to try that test.
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Originally Posted by Walk
Would you be in favor of tattoo'ing a cheater to warn others?
Yes, one on the genitals, the other, right between the eyes!
I just took the quiz that I put in my post. It says that there is a moderate risk for cheating, on the low end though. It does list the factors that are at risk for cheating. Mostly it gave the score because my boyfriend and I do spend SOME time apart and we are both attractive and have traits in demand for partners. I don't know about that, I am 100 % certain that he would never cheat on me nor would I. I'm unsure how accurate that test really is.
The score it gave me was "above average". Is that for how likely my H would be to cheat, or my likelihood to cheat? Or just that we have a high chance that cheating would occur in this relationship?
Yeah I read the criteria, it is mostly based on situation and physical attractiveness characteristics.
I mean couples (like my boyfriend and I) who are apart from 9-5 everyday for work have a higher risk then those who work together all day. Also if you are both physically attractive you have a higher risk. Which I suppose there could be some truth in that.
I think they are talking about mostly RISK factors not really whether or not you'd really cheat.
The score it gave me was "above average". Is that for how likely my H would be to cheat, or my likelihood to cheat? Or just that we have a high chance that cheating would occur in this relationship?
The "women" version is how likely your H would cheat. The "men" version (which is up in the right hand corner of the screen) gives the liklihood of you to cheat.
Actually I took the male version and just gave my boyfriend's info for what he would put. So that means I am at a 59% risk to cheat as apposed to his 47%.
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