[shananigans]

so me and my boyfriend have been together for about 10 months, there is no doubt in my mind that he is the one i want to spend the rest of my life is, he tells me that he has a "big surprise" for me at the end of august. I believe that he is going to propose, cuz the end of august is when he graduates the academy and his parents will be in town and he wont tell me if i am right or wrong, but i've made some guesses as to what is is, and the thing that know know it is not is: a dog, a car, hes not asking me to move in cuz he already asked me (i'm moving in after he graduates cuz i dont want to be alone monday through friday in a new place) and its not a trip but the surprise could include one.... every one i have talked to have said its a ring, my mom didnt think that until i told her about the trip thing.... i need opinions please

[hotpinklove85]

Thats what it sounds like. Although guys are pretty wierd about "suprises". I know that my boyfriend told me he had a big suprise (when we first got together, although that was almost 4 yrs ago and I have known him for 9) and wouldnt tell me. Then he came to my house one afternoon and he had bought himself a brand new truck. I guess the suprise was that I didnt have to take him to work anymore??

But I am not always good at judging what men think but if you are already planning to move in with him, then I think it is probably a proposal.

Good luck

[Star Gazer]

I don't think a guy lets on in advance that he's going to propose. He doesn't TELL you that he has a surprise for you if that surprise is a proposal.

I bet you $5 it's a trip somewhere to celebrate completing the academy.

[Prodigal Princess]

Well I guess it had better be a ring; now that you're obsessed with the thought, nothing else will be good enough. Poor guy.

[hotpinklove85]

Originally Posted by Star Gazer

I don't think a guy lets on in advance that he's going to propose. He doesn't TELL you that he has a surprise for you if that surprise is a proposal.

I bet you $5 it's a trip somewhere to celebrate completing the academy.

haha I bet your right, guys do stuff like that. I guess you would have to know him, to be able to make that call.

[Lauriebell82]

Originally Posted by shananigans

so me and my boyfriend have been together for about 10 months, there is no doubt in my mind that he is the one i want to spend the rest of my life is, he tells me that he has a "big surprise" for me at the end of august. I believe that he is going to propose, cuz the end of august is when he graduates the academy and his parents will be in town and he wont tell me if i am right or wrong, but i've made some guesses as to what is is, and the thing that know know it is not is: a dog, a car, hes not asking me to move in cuz he already asked me (i'm moving in after he graduates cuz i dont want to be alone monday through friday in a new place) and its not a trip but the surprise could include one.... every one i have talked to have said its a ring, my mom didnt think that until i told her about the trip thing.... i need opinions please

I don't think you should put all your eggs in one basket. A "surpise" in guy world can be anything..like the other poster said hers was her bf's new truck.

Yes, it could be a proposal, but my advice is to prepare yourself for it being a suprise for something else. Then you can REALLY be surpised if he pops the question.

[stillafool]

That is so funny because one time my ex told me he had a surprise for me and he had bought himself a new car. I remember thinking why didn't he just say he had a "surprise" instead of "a surprise for me".

10 months is kind of soon to get engaged isn't it? Is it? Well, you never know but let us know what the surprise was.

[shananigans]

but honestly thats not what i'm expecting cuz i'm trying to think of what it could be from the few clues he has given me, i'm just saying that i havent been able to disprove that... like my mom was like maybe its a tv, but he just bought a new tv so i know thats not it, its not a dog.... i told him that i still havent been able to rule out a ring and his reply was nice try still not gonna tell you, where as i've gotten no's for other things, but i know not to expect a ring, like i'm still trying to firgure out what it could possibly be.... maybe i'll guess a car for him see what he says

[Lauriebell82]

Originally Posted by shananigans

but honestly thats not what i'm expecting cuz i'm trying to think of what it could be from the few clues he has given me, i'm just saying that i havent been able to disprove that... like my mom was like maybe its a tv, but he just bought a new tv so i know thats not it, its not a dog.... i told him that i still havent been able to rule out a ring and his reply was nice try still not gonna tell you, where as i've gotten no's for other things, but i know not to expect a ring, like i'm still trying to firgure out what it could possibly be.... maybe i'll guess a car for him see what he says

Well, first thing is to stop bugging him. Telling him you haven't "ruled out a ring" is probably a little too obvious. It could be anything really, and in my experience as well as most of the other posters, it is most likely that a suprise to him is something that probably wouldn't be as great as a suprise for you. 10 months isn't really that long, you guys need to get know each other better than that IMO.

So stop bothering him about what is it, and just expect the "Surpise" to be absolutely anything. Oh and DO NOT act crushed or pissed off if he doesn't propose.

[frd150]

I agree with Lauriebell. I was in his shoes. I planned to do it a certain way and when she least suspected it. There were two times when she thought it might happen and it didnt it was not the way I wanted to do it. I think this brought on alot of resentment on her part leading to the demise of our relationship. She expected Christmas or on a big family trip. I was plannintg to do it a couple months down the road on her birthday. I was planning a getaway for just me and her. Well, she broke up with me shortly after the family trip.

Anyway...

Do not hold it against him if its not a proposal as Im sure if the two of you area as compatible as you say that will come. I feel that the wedding is all about the bride and what she wants. Her fairytail so to speak. The proposal is the one thing that we guys have total control over, its our thing. Either way Im sure he has something good in store for you so be happy either way.

[Trialbyfire]

The less you pressure a man for a proposal, the more likely he'll do it. No one wants to be cornered.

Who knows what he's got planned but don't be disappointed if he's only buying a house/condo for your cohabitation plans.

[johan]

At the end of August he will complete the last of his trans-gender operations. Surprise!

[newfoundglory]

Originally Posted by Star Gazer

I don't think a guy lets on in advance that he's going to propose. He doesn't TELL you that he has a surprise for you if that surprise is a proposal.

I bet you $5 it's a trip somewhere to celebrate completing the academy.

I just proposed to my fiancee. You I can tell you that you are incorrect. I was telling her I had a big day set up for us and that it was a surprise. So yes I told her that I had a surprise for her and that surprise was a ring.


STOP digging for information. DO YOU REALLY WANT TO RUIN your surprise. HE only told you for the same reason That i told my fiancee. I was so excited about it, I was having a hard time waiting. I just wanted to be engaged to her. He's totally in love with you and it is killing him that he has to wait. So stop worrying about it, you have the rest of your life to spend with him.

[sb129]

Originally Posted by Star Gazer

I don't think a guy lets on in advance that he's going to propose. He doesn't TELL you that he has a surprise for you if that surprise is a proposal.
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My fiance totally surprised me. Wouldn't have it any other way. feels more "real".

Originally Posted by Prodigal Princess

Well I guess it had better be a ring; now that you're obsessed with the thought, nothing else will be good enough. Poor guy.

Agreed. No matter how much she says she is cool with it if it isn't a proposal, hes dug himself into a hole now.

[I Luv the Chariot OH]

Two questions which will answer everything:
1. Are you a teenager?
2. Is this your first relationship?

Also, if you aren't living with your bf you'll be "alone Monday through Friday?" o_O Don't you have any friends or family?