It's been a year since I've been seeing a man I've wanted to be with a few years back. I've known him through my ex-bf but neither of us have ever crossed the line beyond friendship and hello from time to time. My ex and I were invited over for house parties and what not and I've known this guy as a confident, mature, good-looking, energetic, with a good sense of style, very much into bicycling and moderately neat. I adored him.
As I mentioned, it's been a year since we've been together but not living together. A few problems which affect our relationship from my side. Television, procrastination and unorganization.
He is a 34 years old man, comes home, turns on TV and sits on his behind into the night. Once that tv button goes on, he's glued to it and hears nothing that goes on around him. His place is a dissaster, clothes on the floor, shoes all over the place, piles of papers all over the tables, chairs, floors. I've been offering my help to help him clean up. I've organized neatly some of the papers, separated trash in a separate pile with a note "Trash" so he can go over it and throw it away. It's been months, it's still seating in the same place untouched. I've been trying to be playful and nice about it but he's just not responding. I asked if we can eat at the dining table which is covered with papers the next time we have dinner, he said "sure, no problem"....I haven't seen that table clean in months. ;o(
I am thinking, he might have had a gf who cleaned everything for him, I am not that type of a person. I will help him but I won't do it for him. Another thing, he got to the point that his apartment is infested with roaches, even in the bedroom where we sleep. I pointed it out a few times, he bought a spray yesterday....guess he is trying. What am I to do, is he not respecting me?
My place is spottless and I keep it very neat not to mention bed bugs infestation.
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Something I've been trying to fight for the last couple of months, so while my studio apt is being treated, I stay over my bf's apartment and have to deal with his mess and unwillingness to do anything to help make it a more comfortable place for us.
I'll appreciate any input. Thanks guys.
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