[lonelyisme]

OK, first of all, don't like my title, but don't know how to title this...

OK, my friend from childhood, got married about 10 years ago, to a woman that I liked and was attracted to first sight (never met her until he brought her around to introduce), however, I stayed clear, not just because of my friend, but because I was in a relationship too. Anyways, long story short, I got a divorce and then about a year later he got divorced and moved off to another town with another woman. I started hanging out, talking, and chatting with his now ex wife. We always were friendly in the past, but now we became very good friends.

We shared everything with each other. How crappy or not so crappy our marriages were, sexual things (we both haven't had sex in a while), just stuff. The better I got to know her, the more I fell for her, and kind of think she was falling for me too. (I am not very great and knowing 100% for sure about these things). Anyways, we were chatting every night on Yahoo, talked on phone often, etc. and then her ex (still with other woman) moved back close to where she was and that stopped. Now she's moved herself away from him and it has picked up again.

Anyways, last weekend she calls me up asking if I had any alcoholic drinks, and if I did would I mind bringing some to her. (had some stuff from a get together we had from before, LOL) Of course, I didn't mind. I ended up not only taking it to her, but staying at her house from 10PM until 2:30 AM watching movies and sitting on the couch together (she invited me to watch movies). She drank, I didn't because I had to drive home.

OK, she has love-seat and a couch, there was only the two of us, and we both spent the entire time sitting right next to each other on the couch. We were sitting close enough that our bodies touched, and she didn't pull away and if she got up, when she sat back down, she'd sit in the same spot so we would touch.

Nothing happened, but I kept feeling like she wanted something. She'd stretch out facing me, she put her feet up across my legs and then on her coffee table, we played a little (tickle her feet or back of her neck) and she'd hit me (not hard, like playful hitting) etc... After this night, she's called, text, talked to, etc. wanting me to go up and watch fireworks with her last night and "needing favors" around her house, etc...

Anyways, instead of going on endlessly. How do I know she's not just lonely and wants a friend around? And it just so happens to be me. And then, if she does have the same feelings for me as I do her, then do I wait around for it to happen or pursue it? I do value her friendship and would take a lifetime friend over a non-existent or short lived romantic relationship. The 800 pound gorilla in the room is my friend and her ex husband. They have kids together too and not only am I friends with him, but I'm friends with his entire family. If it didn't work out, I could possibly lose them along with her, if it did work out, I'd gain happiness with her, and possibly lose my friend and his family?? LOL what a dilema.

Anyone?

Thanks,

Anyways, I'm confused about it all, and unsure of what to do or not to do.

[adien012]

wow thats a whole drama couch haha. What i think you should do is first talk to her about it i mean talking doesn't make you regret anything you know. So i would confront her about it first and ask her what is up. honesty is the best policy so be honest with her because if you are not then nobody knows how you truly feel about the person. Sexual tension is hard to resist but approached in a mature way conflict can be avoided. hope that helps