I don't know Faux, but I would leave it alone for a bit. See if she leaves a message telling you what she wants. I really really would. It just causes paaaiiinnnnnn!
Sorry, I don't know your situation.... however, I kinda know women. It's not a booty call (like men do after a few). She called because of one of two things (1) she is hurting and needs to talk and/or (2) she wants to hear your voice, as she misses you, too.
Now, you can choose to accept or deny her calls, but can you deny your feelings? What are you feeling? Is it the : I will never get laid again feeling or the: I actually love/miss her? Once you decided which feeling it is, then act on it, accordingly.
Hi Y, she called just to f**k with your head a bit more. She knows your getting better and getting over her and she doesn't like that. She would rather have you sitting around crying over her. You are getting better, F**k her and her new man. Keep doing NC and moving on.
The way I see it is this, maybe things aren't going so great in paradise, maybe he's turning out to be a real jerk....lets say you rush in to save the day, and she knows once again you are always there to have her back just as you always were before......she knows she can have you.....uhhhmmm what have you gained.....respect? The feeling by her that she can not just have you whenever she wants? That maybe loosing you....if she really ever thought she did......which she doesn't right now......that loosing you is a bad thing and she made a mistake? If you run to her right now...I think it puts you in such a huge position of weakness...if she wants something real...if she's really reaslized her mistake, she will keep trying, she will show up at your door to talk about what a fool she has been. Anything short of that is a power move...shes checking your pulse to see if your still around. Don't fall for that bait. If things really aren't that great in paradise, then let her suffer the consequences and deal with what she has done. If she is calling to get her socks back.....let her wait.....a really really long time? Dude...come on!
Hi Y, she called just to f**k with your head a bit more. She knows your getting better and getting over her and she doesn't like that. She would rather have you sitting around crying over her. You are getting better, F**k her and her new man. Keep doing NC and moving on.
Sorry, but I respectfully disagree. I, myself would never do this, do I know or would recommend this to any friends. Women may tease a guy during courtship, but if love is between them, then the woman usually is straightforward in the relationship. (at least from my experience).
I truly think she needed to talk to him (maybe not all lovey dovey) but she is reaching out. NOw, the poster can call or disregard. The choice is his.
She just called again, but I was on the other line, and didn't answer. She can tell when I'm on the other line so whatever.
She must be having a boring 4th. heh
She's prolly drunk, and yeah, needs to satisfy her need to hear my voice, and make herself feel better, 'cuz she has a free minute to call me now. I clearly told her how it was gonna be, but for some reason, she didn't believe me.
I clearly told her how it was gonna be, but for some reason, she didn't believe me.
Good man, let her sit in it. Think about how it looks from her end..
She doesn't know you're hurting as bad as you are, cause you've been amazing with NC. She's realizing that you're moving on. Please don't answer the phone when she calls.. she could easily say something to set you off, and give her back the power.
Right now, you totally have it. She's "reaching out" to you.
Wait till she leaves a voice mail, which she will eventually, and see what she has to say. And even after that, don't call her back.
You gotta admit Y, it feels great ignoring her calls doesn't it?
I have read a lot of your posts over the past months and I can see that you are clearly making progress. DON'T let a couple of missed calls set you back. You will speak to her when you are ready and on your terms only - not a minute sooner.
Be strong. Be in control. Nothing is more alluring and appealing to the opposite sex than someone who is in control of their life.
My ex and I have been apart 6 months and I have been on strict NC for almost 4 months. A few days ago he wrote to me. I have not replied. It is comforting to know that they still sometimes think of us. But it is empowering to know that we have the strength to look fate in the eyes and take control of our lives.
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I still occasionally miss my ex. But my aim is improving!
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