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When you first see someone new and think they are cute or good looking...is it their face or overall apperance? Height? Just wondering
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When you first see someone new and think they are cute or good looking...is it their face or overall apperance? Height? Just wondering
For me, I don't know what it is that gets me. When I see a guy I automatically notice if he is attractive to me, but even if he has a nice face and body, maybe I'll feel sparks, or maybe I won't. Sometimes he's not even attractive physically, but I am attracted anyways. I really am waiting to find a pattern, but so far I can't find a rhyme or a reason to it. I do or I don't like him and I can't be sure what chooses how I feel.
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I agree with MissDeath - it's the overall appearance to me. Like how they carry themselves - I think it's completely true when someone who doesn't look like they have confidence aren't attractive. Even IF they are good looking.
- Posture and carriage: Shoulders up. Chin level, not staring at the ground when talking to people. Economy and grace of motion. Expressive but not showy gestures. Can look you in the eye without making it a challenge.
- Overall appearance of health and decent strength. Not overweight. Not overly frail. Clear, bright eyes, muscle coordination. Some amount of care and pride for their appearance, and I don't mean gym-rat muscles or designer clothing, but at least proper personal hygiene and acceptance of their body, whatever type it is. I dated a guy who had a secret loathing of his body, and instead of doing anything about it, he would neglect his body (junk food, no exercise, would never wear short sleeved shirts, etc) and it just made it worse.
Everything else - height, coloring, details of facial features, etc, really doesn't matter. I can grow to like that stuff later, but the above is what attracts me first.
You can also tell a lot about a new guy (or a girl) from how he is with an unfamiliar dog.
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