It makes me smile. The timing of this choice has a very good feel.
The decision to give space was absolutely the right thing and I'll keep on as intended. GD (or GD-cum-KFP for the purists) needed to know how he felt about things and he needed to make a solid choice for himself without feeling he was giving in to anyone else's wants or expectations.
There is no question now for either of us. We're actively choosing each other. Hearing the words out loud. Having our actions match the words is indescribably good. No decisions by default. No we just fell back into it. No we'll hang when it's comfortable and flee when it's not. No passivity and no games and no guessing.
We love each other. We choose each other. A whole lot.
Have the issues that caused the breakup been addressed....discussed.
If it were me...I would try to create a safe environment where issues can be brought to light , addressed and resolved in a kind and respectful manner.
Why is everyone so skeptical? What? You all don't believe in second chances?
Ok, I'll stop being sarcastic. I'm happy for you, Carrot. But you know how I feel by now.
From my experience, you're in a "honeymoon" phase now. It can get addictive. But usually you end up right where you left off before the honeymoon phase started. Usually within a few months and sometimes even longer.
I sincerely hope that you prove to be the exception to this. I really do.
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I been away a while. I was happy to see Carrot's post. I know, cynical here too, but I really do hope it works out for you. The pain we all experience somehow makes love brighter, warmer and more fulfilling and I really hope that's the case for you too. Good luck and happy 4th to you both
Don't have much to add, but when three of my fave posters are on one short thread, i feel compelled to say SOMETHING.
something
No really, good luck to you carrot, my new 'personal stylist" and happy independence day TBF & Touche.
( not to TJ, but i had my first 'ex girlfriend stalking experience wed ! YIKES !)
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kizik, I plan on enjoying this indefinitely. BTW, it was a row, and consequent making up that sealed it for us both.
Simon, we're safe and the conversation is ongoing as needed. See above. Thanks.
Touche, the sarcasm is of far less consequence than your presence, though it made for a smile. Thanks. I'd like us to be an exception to that experience too. We'll have to see won't we?
Tri, that's funny! GD said much the same thing to me (same meaning, different words) as his way of "convincing" me or was it him? He was just talking and saying stuff, because how else can you talk?
Chinook, thank you! It's really great to know you're not rooting for my relationship to fail! Today has some significance for us. We always have fireworks for Independence Day no matter where in the world we are. Today we have extra!
Touche, I'm ready for more EZ.
Tri, WOW!
mel-O-dy, awww. No one says something like youuu dooo. No TJ. Poor stalking donkey. Just get a restraining order or "something".
Tri, I think we're due for those cocktails. Any chance to say cock....tails.
Touche, Carrot came back from the pub. Carrot has a beer in her which makes for a shloshy, babbly Carrot!
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We'll def. do drinks one day!
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