[inulg]

I found this song, and finally i think i'm understanding things a bit! this is a very good coping song / viewing your end as another beginning.

Your heart is not open so I must go
The spell has been broken, I loved you so
Freedom comes when you learn to let go
Creation comes when you learn to say no

You were my lesson I had to learn
I was your fortress you had to burn
Pain is a warning that something's wrong
I pray to God that it won't be long
Do ya wanna go higher?

Chorus:

There's nothing left to try
There's no place left to hide
There's no greater power
Than the power of good-bye

Your heart is not open so I must go
The spell has been broken, I loved you so
You were my lesson I had to learn
I was your fortress

Chorus2:

There's nothing left to lose
There's no more heart to bruise
There's no greater power
Than the power of good-bye

Learn to say good-bye
I yearn to say good-bye

[sultry33]

this was "the " song he said he would listen to if i cheated an left..
well i didnt cheat.. but he left..
i dont like this song

[Antithesis]

Yup - I listen to that at least a few times a week, especially during a work out.

[Peter_pan]

taio cruz, moving on.

i like that song

[inulg]

yeah, i agree, ithe song helps a whole lot to try to move on.. see things positively. the only problem is i cant say goodbye yeah i'm stuck there....

sigh.

[Peter_pan]

dude i thought you where over her, or you just over the concept of having a RE with her again?

its hard i know man, im going through it to. sucks majorly!! i am waiting for a beauty to sweep me off my feet and i hope i fall for them and can give them my love and this time round do everything right. that means if it ends or she runs off at least i'll know i did everything i possibly could IN the RE

[inulg]

Originally Posted by Peter_pan

dude i thought you where over her, or you just over the concept of having a RE with her again?

its hard i know man, im going through it to. sucks majorly!! i am waiting for a beauty to sweep me off my feet and i hope i fall for them and can give them my love and this time round do everything right. that means if it ends or she runs off at least i'll know i did everything i possibly could IN the RE

hehe.. actually! i'm a 'she'... mourning for the loss of a 'he' ...!

i'm not sure where i stand on things. i'm not sure how i feel anymore about him, i know the only way things would work is if he changed and dedicated himself to the relationship and to getting some anger management skills... i just dont know anymore. but i do like this song, and listening to good breakup songs is a good way of enduring all this pain!

i do hope to get over him, but i think i'll always have a little door that (unfortuantly) will be kept open, because i've never been one to shoot down second (it'd be third really...lol) chances... but i do hope that if he doesnt come back, that i meet someone that can make me forget all of this, and make me feel like i can trust someone with my heart again!

[Peter_pan]

oh lol sorry hun!!

yeah i know what you mean, i feel like i have a little door that will be hard to close IF i ever did get a second chance.

i just hear second chances never work really. because we "fantasize" about things we cant have and imagine them to be better in our mind and we are satisfied for a small amount of time when we have them back, but soon reality settles back in and things are not going how you have mapped out in your mind then it suddenly becomes "tainted" again

[inulg]

Originally Posted by Peter_pan

oh lol sorry hun!!

yeah i know what you mean, i feel like i have a little door that will be hard to close IF i ever did get a second chance.

i just hear second chances never work really. because we "fantasize" about things we cant have and imagine them to be better in our mind and we are satisfied for a small amount of time when we have them back, but soon reality settles back in and things are not going how you have mapped out in your mind then it suddenly becomes "tainted" again

I totally agree with you, and i think if he does come back (which more than likely he wont...) he will have to have changed his outlook. if I've learned anything from this, its that i cant stay in a relationship with someone who believes that a relationship shouldent be hard work. someone who sees relationships as disposable if they get too difficult. and at the same time realize that we are each human and have our own flaws. what determines if you're a good person or not is knowing your flaws and working on them, bettering yourself as an individual ( the anger management thing ) so... definitely if he isnt going to work on those two things then i completely give up

i think right now i'm just hoping that he'll change, or hoping i'll get over him... whichever comes first, and causes the least amount of pain.