Hi everyone, I am a first time Internet dater and would like your help with the following situation.
Essentially I've only had one girlfriend. We were pretty serious for over four years but we broke up a couple months ago.
I recently met a very pretty girl online. I sent her a note, simply asking her whether she wanted to meet up. It was the first time I ever communicated with her and I realized after the fact that my message was probably way too direct.
I was shocked to get a message back saying we should go for a beer! She did not even ask me any questions about me!
Is that normal or should I be worried? She is 19 and I am 20.
Hi everyone, I am a first time Internet dater and would like your help with the following situation.
Essentially I've only had one girlfriend. We were pretty serious for over four years but we broke up a couple months ago.
I recently met a very pretty girl online. I sent her a note, simply asking her whether she wanted to meet up. It was the first time I ever communicated with her and I realized after the fact that my message was probably way too direct.
I was shocked to get a message back saying we should go for a beer! She did not even ask me any questions about me!
Is that normal or should I be worried? She is 19 and I am 20.
I assume she knows what you look like, if so not weird at all.
If you talked online about each other, that's essentially what happens on a first date, so go out with her dude!!
Yeah, that's weird. have you been talking for a while or was that her first communication to you? If it's the latter, then that's really weird. Why was she specific about beer anyway? And she's 19?
Nothing but weird, decent girls don't respond like that. (Have done online dating myself).
I'm the weirdo who asked for a date on the very first message I sent (I didn't know what I was doing). We traded a few messages about music and literature. Then she proposed that we go for drinks (sorry "beer" is my personal translation) next weekend.
I know for sure that it's not a fake profile. Her answers are articulate and thoughtful.
I am still in shock as she is soooo pretty! I am also surprised that girls wouldn't be more cautious than this.
I'm the weirdo who asked for a date on the very first message I sent (I didn't know what I was doing). We traded a few messages about music and literature. Then she proposed that we go for drinks (sorry "beer" is my personal translation) next weekend.
I know for sure that it's not a fake profile. Her answers are articulate and thoughtful.
I am still in shock as she is soooo pretty! I am also surprised that girls wouldn't be more cautious than this.
Aaah. You two are both weirdos !! You for asking for a date on 1st email!! (I WOULDN'T have responded to that), and her for taking it so casually like that. If she's so pretty like you say, she probably receives dozen of such invitation from other guys. I would suggest that you give it some time, try to find out more about her, talk a little online or over the phone before you actually go out for a beer.
Stay away she probably sent you a picture of her 10 years and 50lbs before now. She'll swallow you whole!!!
Outside of the scary above thought am I the only one who thinks this guy talks way too articulate for a 20yo and the fact a 19yo said very casually let's go grab a beer like it's the norm?
Newbie you pulling my weiner and posting some bs or what? Your story makes no sense. Book smart people who speak so well don't say let's grab a beer so make up something to cover your tracks.
Stay away she probably sent you a picture of her 10 years and 50lbs before now. She'll swallow you whole!!!
Outside of the scary above thought am I the only one who thinks this guy talks way too articulate for a 20yo and the fact a 19yo said very casually let's go grab a beer like it's the norm?
Newbie you pulling my weiner and posting some bs or what? Your story makes no sense. Book smart people who speak so well don't say let's grab a beer so make up something to cover your tracks.
You have a very good eye, my friend.
I am not from the U.S., which might explain why my English is a bit "different".
I am not from the U.S., which might explain why my English is a bit "different".
That could explain a few things. Careful she might be 300+ in person. Outside of that scary thought all relationships short or long are all about timing. Being at the right place at the right time and taking a chance when an opportunity presents itself. When someone is enthusiastic like she was it means she needs a date because she just broke up with someone, is lonely between relationships, or even just finished school and has lots of time and wants to be more social.
Jump on it and go for it without questioning it. Just keep in mind she's not into you no matter how friendly she is. She just needed you (or anyone similar) in her life right now. If you're with her a few months down the line then you can let down your gaurd and know she's into you.
That could explain a few things. Careful she might be 300+ in person. Outside of that scary thought all relationships short or long are all about timing. Being at the right place at the right time and taking a chance when an opportunity presents itself. When someone is enthusiastic like she was it means she needs a date because she just broke up with someone, is lonely between relationships, or even just finished school and has lots of time and wants to be more social.
Jump on it and go for it without questioning it. Just keep in mind she's not into you no matter how friendly she is. She just needed you (or anyone similar) in her life right now. If you're with her a few months down the line then you can let down your gaurd and know she's into you.
Thanks again for your valuable input.
I have seen dozens of pictures of hers (from all angles or almost...) and I am just about certain that there won't be any surprises in the looks department.
She may be totally annoying but that I won't find out until we meet.
You are also right about the circumstances as she recently became single. After a few exchanges, she mentioned how she looks forward to meeting me.
Until we meet up, how frequently should I keep in touch with her online?
I got an email from a guy through an online dating site, and it was simply..."Liked your profile, we should meet up for a drink soon." And that was it. I liked his straightforwardness and said yes. We dated for a very nice three months.
He told me that he used to send multiple emails back and forth with women until he got horribly humiliated and stood up by someone posing as a woman he met online but thinks in actuality it was an ex putting him on. So now he cuts to the chase and doesn't waste much time back and forth.
I got an email from a guy through an online dating site, and it was simply..."Liked your profile, we should meet up for a drink soon." And that was it. I liked his straightforwardness and said yes. We dated for a very nice three months.
He told me that he used to send multiple emails back and forth with women until he got horribly humiliated and stood up by someone posing as a woman he met online but thinks in actuality it was an ex putting him on. So now he cuts to the chase and doesn't waste much time back and forth.
I have met up with a lot of people that I met online and if you meet in a public place it is no big deal...
It's actually pretty fun and a great way to meet people...
As an earlier poster mentioned it's a beer not a lifetime commitment..
If she gives you the creeps get up and leave end of story
have fun
life is too short
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!! You for asking for a date on 1st email!! (I WOULDN'T have responded to that), and her for taking it so casually like that. If she's so pretty like you say, she probably receives dozen of such invitation from other guys. I would suggest that you give it some time, try to find out more about her, talk a little online or over the phone before you actually go out for a beer.
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