[Mudemon]

Hey, I really recently got together with a girl that I've known for quite a while (hadn't spoken to her really during that time before these last few weeks). Thing is, we hadn't really talked about what was happening between us (whether we were in a serious relationship or just having fun), shes on holiday in portugal with her mates, went to a club and kissed a guy after getting drunk. She called me the next day and told me, she said she really likes me and has felt really bad the whole time since. I asked whether she wanted a serious relationship and she said yeah, I told her not to do it again and she said she wont. I dont want to over-react because the situation wasnt clear, and fair-play to her she told me straight away, but I dont want her to think she can go kissing other guys and expecting me to be ok with it..... I dunno whether this is a relationship worth persuing if she does this after 2 weeks, plus we are both going to uni in 2 months..... I really like her but i'm just a bit confused about what to do!!


P.S sorry if this sound stupid, its my first post!!

[Lauriebell82]

Okay you've only been seeing her two weeks. I can see how thats not really established yet. BUT Had you discussed seeing other people in addition to each other? It sounds like you really didn't establish a relationship yet HOWEVER, like you said this could be a warning sign. If she really did like you, I honestly believe she wouldn't have kissed another guy on vacation without you.

I think its' up to you if you should give her another chance. If you are worried that she might do it again, you may start becoming paranoid everytime she goes on a holiday without you or if she goes out with guy friends or something.

I understand 2 weeks is not a lot of time to be with someone, it does sound like she may have caused you to not trust her now..being in a relationship where you can't trust your SO sucks, take it from me.

[smoothrider]

This could be an early red flag. There are certain types of girls ESPECIALLY when they go abroad that just go into sl*t mode, yes she confessed that's great maybe now she reaslises hold on I like my guy I want this to be serious but when she had that kiss clearly she wasn't worried about the consequence. Got to hate dating these days where you must have an "exclusiveness" talk to avoid .

Though I'm a serial cheater so who am I to talk. Hell maybe I kissed her I was abroad recently. Point is it shouldnt of happened never ever, unless he forced himself on her and she immediately rejected him which she did not. Keep an eye open or break up and find someone more into what your after.

[torranceshipman]

Smoothrider: 'Hell maybe I kissed her I was abroad recently' - LOL! HaHa!

For some reason that really made me laugh

I don't think there's anythin to worry about here...I'd be more concerned about how you manage the university thing...

[bish]

Originally Posted by Mudemon

Hey, I really recently got together with a girl that I've known for quite a while (hadn't spoken to her really during that time before these last few weeks). Thing is, we hadn't really talked about what was happening between us (whether we were in a serious relationship or just having fun), shes on holiday in portugal with her mates, went to a club and kissed a guy after getting drunk. She called me the next day and told me, she said she really likes me and has felt really bad the whole time since. I asked whether she wanted a serious relationship and she said yeah, I told her not to do it again and she said she wont.

And if you believe that, I got a brand new Lamborghini I'll let you borrow for a month.

I dont want to over-react because the situation wasnt clear, and fair-play to her she told me straight away, but I dont want her to think she can go kissing other guys and expecting me to be ok with it..... I dunno whether this is a relationship worth persuing if she does this after 2 weeks

You may not have had the "exclusivity talk" with her, but if she wants that with you, she sure as hell aint going about it the right way.

Is this R worth pursuing? No. When the cat is away the mice will play. Out of sight out of mind. That is the mindset of someone like this. Its nice that she told you, but it doesn't change a thing.