[H0ney]

I know this sounds REALLY petty... it's another "facebook" deal.. (STUPID I KNOW! But hey I am only a college kid so what do you expect?)

Some background: I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and a half. We are both young 20s but have, what I thought was, a very mature relationship... hopefully headed towards marriage someday.

I should also mention, just recently we gave each other our email and facebook passwords (perhaps a bad idea, I know... but if you have nothing to hide, there's nothing to worry about right?!).

Anyways, today I randomly logged into his email because, well I was bored (please don't scold me I know it was wrong in a way). And yes, iI found a stupid email from a stupid facebook "application", (those of you with facebook know what I am referring to) which he had obviously just added, and it was like a dating/are you interested in me... aka SINGLE person thing to have.

The weird thing is- he purposely blocked it in every way for it not to show up on his actual profile (therefore, unless I check his email I would never know he added this petty, stupid, scummy thing).

So my question is... I'm in a bind. I can't really mention it without also mentioning that, duh, I was in his email. I don't know if he's testing me or what... and if he is, why would he need to right? I would never do such a thing to him. But I just find it so odd because we always make fun of people who add immature/weird things to their profiles. And quite honestly, the fact that he would do such a silly thing (which jeopardizes my feelings/securities in the relationship) freaks me out!!!

So, should I ask him about it? Ask him to remove it? Or are there other options? It's freaked me out so much I even thought about going as far as making a fake profile to see if he does anything creepy behind my back (but do not think I could bring myself to ever do such a thing)!

Advice Please!!! Thanks in advance!

[sally4sara]

I've never understood why anyone would give their passwords to anyone and then get mad if the person looked. Why else would they need to know your password?

What do you do now that you've looked and found something to feel insecure about? You don't do anything other than what you're already doing. Keep an eye on it. If he is testing you, then jumping on him about his facebook quiz is what he is waiting for you to do. If he is not testing you, then he is trying to be a sneaky jerk. If you confront him now with nothing other than his quiz, it won't matter what it is there for. He will just say it was a test or say it was a joke or some other attempt at excusing it and you won't know what to believe.
By saying nothing you can monitor his facebook activity to see if he is using it to meet people. If it is a test, nothing will happen or he will take it down after a period of time.

[Carmen87]

I have my boyfriend's password for many things as well, and I admit that one time I did snoop. It was a big mistake because it led to a huge misunderstanding. My advice is just forget it and do not look anymore. Chances are he added it for an ego boost.

But seriously, just stay out of his email and facebook. It is only going to lead to unnecessary insecurity and such.

[H0ney]

Thanks for the replies!

And the other night I casually mentioned it and he was like what are you talking about?!?

HAHA, so apparently it was a huge mistake, he doesn't even know how it got there, and he deleted it in front of me with no hesitation... whew, I almost seriously got weirded out! Luckily for nothing.. thanks for the help!

[endlesstrains]

I am not single and have absolutely no intention of cheating or looking for other men, but I have that facebook application "Sparkey" or whatever on my account. It doesn't show up on my page because a lot of my applications I only use for myself. The whole "social profile" application includes Sparkey. I added social profile because it's fun and interesting... and Sparkey is just part of it... I look at it now and then because it is a little bit of an ego boost to see if anyone is interested in me but I would NEVER follow up on any of it and NEVER would contact these people in any way. It's just a silly little application. That's my two cents