Does my husband have a problem or is this normal?

SunnySideUp · 30th June 2008, 10:57 AM

Okay, I haven't posted on here in a while, things have been really good lately. But what happened yesterday makes me feel weird. I want to know if guys out there think my husband has a problem of if this is normal. I don't know what to think, the whole thing is bizarre.

My husband, son and I were all home yesterday. I was sitting on the floor feeding my son and my husband was on the couch behind me, with his laptop. I got up to go get something from the kitchen and out of the corner of my eye noticed my husband had a porn site up with a picture of a woman with big boobs, and he quickly minimized it.

Really, I have two questions. Is it normal for men to look at porn on the sly when others are in the room, or is this weird?

The second is, this is the hundreth or so thing that confirms my husband likes big boobs. This has been a bit of an issue in our relationship because before we were married my husband would make it a point to say that he did not like big boobs, which I never thought anything of until I saw porn searches he did for "busty" and "huge tits" and things like that. I am a small b cup and have always been happy with my body. I'm just wondering why others think my husband felt the need to lie to me about the boob thing. Was it because he didn't want to hurt my feelings or make me feel bad about my bodY? I know he's still attracted to me...

Enema · 30th June 2008, 11:04 AM

1) I don't think your husband is weird.
2) There are two parts to the boobs thing:

a) He said he didn't like big boobs because he wanted to reassure you and didn't want you to feel insecure.

b) Men like variety.
My wife is a hot young asian... so naturally I look at everything but hot young asians when surfing for porn because hey, I've already got one of those, let's look at something different!

SunnySideUp · 30th June 2008, 11:19 AM

Hi enema
thanks for your reply. The variety thing makes sense to me, and I understand and accept that men need variety. Thanks for the reassurance!

Jennifer26 · 30th June 2008, 1:44 PM

It is NOT normal to be looking at pornography with your wife and child right near you. You are not wrong in thinking he has a problem.

Yes, most men look at porn at some point or another. But with your wife and child in the same room? No.

As for telling you he doesn't like large breasts, I am sure that is to make you feel better.

porter218 · 30th June 2008, 1:48 PM

I think that is strange that he did that while you were in the same room.
But it is likely that he wasn't lying about not wanting a woman with big boobs. A lot of men think big boobs are sexy but in a trashy way, which is fine for porn but not for a girl they want to be with in real life. I have heard this point of view from many men.