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Old 25th June 2008, 2:03 PM   #1
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Asked to be in a wedding and then forgotten

How would you guys react to this?

A friend of mine and former roomate called me the day he proposed and asked me to be in his wedding. Well, its this friday and thus far Im not in it. A couple of weeks ago he sent me a text asking about my rsvp. I apologized and told him that I thought it was assumed I would be there since he asked me to be in it. He said " cool, send it anyway". Im also sure that I was forgotten about when it came to the bachlor party.

I dont hang out with him all the time but I do when we are both not busy, we do stay in touch. I cant think of anything that I did to piss him off. He was a big supporter while I was going throught the breakup that brought me here and that support has continued.

At this point I dont even want to go to the wedding but I know that would bring about more hard feelings. I was honored to stand up there and support my buddy esp. for all the support he gave me.

What would you guys do?
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Old 25th June 2008, 2:28 PM   #2
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Flat out ask him. Not in a mean way but something to the effect of: "hey, bud I remember you asking me to be in your wedding. Do you still want me to be in it? I know it's coming up so I was wondering if you had any details for me."

The worst he can say is that he no longer wants you to be in it (which would be hard, I can imagine).
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Old 25th June 2008, 2:39 PM   #3
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yep, straight-forward is the best way to go: "Hey, do you still need my help standing in your wedding, and what do I need to do and by when?"

if he says no, then you're off the hook, but you have your answer. If he says yes, you've jogged his memory (and i imagine that it's no different for guys than it is for girls planning a wedding and trying to remember everything you need to remember!).

either which way, plan on attending his wedding, even if it's only for the ceremony – with all the support he's shown you, it's a very generous way to be there for him.
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Old 25th June 2008, 2:42 PM   #4
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I actually tried calling him last friday but he never called back but thats no different than any other time. Hes not good about calling back.

Wouldnt it be a little wierd to ask so close to the wedding?
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Old 25th June 2008, 2:43 PM   #5
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Im sure I would need a tux,a little late?
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Old 25th June 2008, 2:54 PM   #6
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yep, straight-forward is the best way to go: "Hey, do you still need my help standing in your wedding, and what do I need to do and by when?"

if he says no, then you're off the hook, but you have your answer. If he says yes, you've jogged his memory (and i imagine that it's no different for guys than it is for girls planning a wedding and trying to remember everything you need to remember!).

either which way, plan on attending his wedding, even if it's only for the ceremony – with all the support he's shown you, it's a very generous way to be there for him.

Thanks guys,

Yeah I know attending the weddingis the right thing to do. Maybe I should give him the benifit of the doubt as Im sure he has had alot on his mind.
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Old 25th June 2008, 3:44 PM   #7
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sure, it's a bit weird having to be the one to ask, and so close to the event, but it works to your advantage in that you'd have an answer, you know?

meanwhile, giving him some slack is prolly the best thing because he's in the middle of bridal hell

at least, from all the stories I've heard from my girlfriends, this is what it sounds like with all the planning from point A to point B to D-Day!
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Old 13th July 2008, 1:42 PM   #8
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meanwhile, giving him some slack is prolly the best thing because he's in the middle of bridal hell
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