Last weekend I went out with someone I met on line. We had literally just spoken for the first time on the phone the day before when he gave me his phone number. He asked if I wanted to have dinner with him, I said yes. We went out for sushi.
The evening was nice, we chatted quite a bit without those uncomfortable silences. Nothing weird or out there. I am still feeling him out - as he seems edgy rather than your "average guy type", although I am still not 100% sure about it. We left the evening on a good note, I told him I had plans later that night (which was true), and we went our seperate ways. He said that he was going out of town on business the next day (Sunday). It is now Monday, I have no idea how long he will be out of town.
So here is my question : What is an acceptable amout of time that someone should return a call or at least contact someone after a get together? Also, he asked for me to go out to dinner on the phone to which I agreed. I am from the old school and think it's more appropo for a man to chase the woman, and I will allow him to do so. Obviously, if I never hear from him again, then he's not interested. So how long before I make that judgement?
You should wait exactly 3 days, 2 hours, 23 minutes and 12 seconds.
You should wait as long as you think the guy's worth. If you like him a lot, give him some time. If not, move on. Bear in mind, though, some guys need some sort of encouragement. Can you find him online again and just say "Hey, I had fun"? He probably doesn't need that, but he may and if you find yourself waiting too long, you might try it.
Last weekend I went out with someone I met on line. We had literally just spoken for the first time on the phone the day before when he gave me his phone number. He asked if I wanted to have dinner with him, I said yes. We went out for sushi.
The evening was nice, we chatted quite a bit without those uncomfortable silences. Nothing weird or out there. I am still feeling him out - as he seems edgy rather than your "average guy type", although I am still not 100% sure about it. We left the evening on a good note, I told him I had plans later that night (which was true), and we went our seperate ways. He said that he was going out of town on business the next day (Sunday). It is now Monday, I have no idea how long he will be out of town.
So here is my question : What is an acceptable amout of time that someone should return a call or at least contact someone after a get together? Also, he asked for me to go out to dinner on the phone to which I agreed. I am from the old school and think it's more appropo for a man to chase the woman, and I will allow him to do so. Obviously, if I never hear from him again, then he's not interested. So how long before I make that judgement?
He asked you to go out to dinner on phone; was this after your get together or before? I'm trying to find out if he called you at least once after your date. I personally, expect my date to make follow up plans, or whatever it may be after a get together. If he sits there expecting me to do the prompting or chasing, then he's not the guy for me.
About him being edgy, most people are likely to behave that way on 1st dates I think. Probably he also thought you were edgy. My BF behaved the same way on our 1st date, and I almost wrote him off. I'm glad I gave him a 2nd opportunity though..
They went out for sushi. She was making a light-hearted, funny title to her thread to capture attention because they went out for sushi originally and she is unsure of how to proceed from there.
I don't think you should call him or contact him in any way. I am old-school, too. If he really wants to see you again because he was taken by you on your first date, he will call. There is really nothing you can do to estimate when you should "give up." His business trip may last a few days or a couple weeks, who knows?
He might choose to call you from his trip or wait until he gets home.
In the meantime, if you get other offers and you want to go out, do it! Don't put all your eggs in one basket they say.
If this guy didn't say anything about contact, then give it a few days, and give him a call and tell him you had fun. No harm, no foul.
Of course she had fun, so what. She can have plenty of fun with another guy who's responsive. Morten, you really don't want to start off with this guy on a wrong foot; you'll be the one doing the calling and chasing everyday. You don't even have to wait for him to call, just move on. If he calls fine, otherwise get yourself another date for sushi.
I just now got a text message from him asking how the party was that I went to later on that night. I haven't responded yet. I don't know if he's back in town or not. How long should I NOW wait to respond to this?
I'm heavily into sushi. I don't like people taking the name of good food in vain.
I'd rather have the sushi than the bloke, in fact.
Any time!
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Don't make him wait over the text message Just reply to that. If you want to play hard to get, do it by delaying dates or something. If you show no interest, you will lose him.
A text is his way of "feeling things out" and since he didn't call, he is prolly gun-shy
Don't make him wait over the text message Just reply to that. If you want to play hard to get, do it by delaying dates or something. If you show no interest, you will lose him.
A text is his way of "feeling things out" and since he didn't call, he is prolly gun-shy
I have to disagree. I think you can wait a day to answer his text. But - be very brief in answering his txt. You don't want a guy who's going to rely on text all the time instead of calling you.
I would txt "Had a great time. Hope you are well!'
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Just reply to that. If you want to play hard to get, do it by delaying dates or something. If you show no interest, you will lose him.
I'd rather have the sushi too!
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