[Kamille]

I have a baaaad crush right now. You know the kind: someone you barely know, but everytime you run into them, you get weak in the knees, you lose your ability to form coherent thoughts and you can't stop staring at them but you compensate by trying to act like you're hardly aware they're there.

There's this one guy I run into once in awhile and I have it bad... and it ain't good. When he's around I turn into a junior high awkward girl. I become super aware of what I say, how I act, what I do, to the point there it's debilitating. He makes me melt. He's made me melt since the first time we met, three years ago. I saw him tonight and I was thorn between running in the other direction or saying : "wanna make out?"

What do I do? How do I go about getting from shy giggles to kissing session with Mr.Crush?

[crosswordfiend]

What is your sense of the situation? Does he take the time to talk to you when he sees you, or is it more a case of exchanging pleasantries?

[xpaperxcutx]

Does he like you back? I can't stand holding on to 3 years crush and not doing something about it.

[Prodigal Princess]

Next time you see him, visualise him sitting on the toilet. That'll bring your feelings for him down a notch.

[Kamille]

Does he like you back? I can't stand holding on to 3 years crush and not doing something about it.

We met three years ago, had an amazing conversation, but I was starting to date someone else so I didn't think much about it except: wow, great guy! I even thought he wasn't exactly my type, but we ended up sitting at the same table of friends at a local pub for two weekends in a row and I am finding out more and more stuff about him which totally makes me melt. Up until this month, it was the kind of crush where, if we happened to be at the same event, I would think to myself: "hey, there's that really cute, interesting guy". Does he like me back? Hard to read, but he did add me on as a friend on facebook.

Originally Posted by crosswordfiend

What is your sense of the situation? Does he take the time to talk to you when he sees you, or is it more a case of exchanging pleasantries?

So far, we have always been together in a group context, and yes, we often end up in the same conversation. So I would say right we're on the line of exchanging pleasantries.

Next time you see him, visualise him sitting on the toilet. That'll bring your feelings for him down a notch.

I'll try that. This crush is so bad I'm thinking: ooh, I hope I see him again soon.

In the last three years, I've run into him maybe 5-6 times, three of which were in the last month.

[missdeathwish]

My best advice is to ask him out. Not like, "Let's DATE!" but more like, "Wanna grab coffee sometime?" Just hang out and keep it pretty low-key.