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I am a male and have two good friends (a husband and wife) who want me to participate in a threesome with them (nothing gay, just with her). I am conflicted by this. I find her attractive (and would like to have sex with her). They also have experience doing this, so it works for them. On the other hand, I really don't want to have sex with a woman with another guy present (particularly one I know so well) and I am concerned about long-term ramifications of our friendship. I am looking for advice for people who have been through this. Thoughts, suggestions?
Done this, but with another girl not a man. I too agree that 2 men having sex in the same room with the same woman in really weird...this is why we went with a woman. Don't do it, your doubts about it is enough. Never do something like that if you aren't 100% sold on the idea because this can strain your friendship.
Don't do it unless you're 100% comfortable with it and from your post obviously you're not so don't do it, you'll regret it. You'll have images of your male buddy in your mind and who knows if there an "accidental" member touch that could happen..
Tell them thanks but no thanks, that their friendship means more to you than a roll in the hay.
I am a male and have two good friends (a husband and wife) who want me to participate in a threesome with them (nothing gay, just with her). I am conflicted by this. I find her attractive (and would like to have sex with her). They also have experience doing this, so it works for them. On the other hand, I really don't want to have sex with a woman with another guy present (particularly one I know so well) and I am concerned about long-term ramifications of our friendship. I am looking for advice for people who have been through this. Thoughts, suggestions?
Texas, you already stated you didn't want to have sex with someone in front of you, so I think you have your answer. Don't do anything you wouldn't feel comfortable with.
I am a male and have two good friends (a husband and wife) who want me to participate in a threesome with them (nothing gay, just with her). I am conflicted by this. I find her attractive (and would like to have sex with her). They also have experience doing this, so it works for them. On the other hand, I really don't want to have sex with a woman with another guy present (particularly one I know so well) and I am concerned about long-term ramifications of our friendship. I am looking for advice for people who have been through this. Thoughts, suggestions?
I am a male and have two good friends (a husband and wife) who want me to participate in a threesome with them (nothing gay, just with her). I am conflicted by this. I find her attractive (and would like to have sex with her). They also have experience doing this, so it works for them. On the other hand, I really don't want to have sex with a woman with another guy present (particularly one I know so well) and I am concerned about long-term ramifications of our friendship. I am looking for advice for people who have been through this. Thoughts, suggestions?
Well I'm on the flip side of this, cause I (female) was the one who had the boyfriend who wanted a threesome with a friend of mine at the time (female). It can cause problems, it did for me a bit, but if the friendship is strong enough, then there shouldn't be a problem.
Some people are comfortable with their sexuality in front of their friends and okay with showing skin, cause they may be more comfortable with their bodies and don't care what other think.
I also get what your saying though, about how it might affect, it could, but more so the female involved, because if she enjoys it enough, who knows she may request again, which is always interesting, but questionable to the friendship down the line.
You just have to ask yourself if the sex is more worth it then your dignity, the friendship, and the after effects of the event?
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I can and have done a threesome with a girlfriend and her best friend and I think most women can deal with this. Now, on an extremely good day, I might participate with a MFM threesome, but the guy would have to be someone we don't know. I would be too tramatized to have in my memory a night of passion with my SO/spouse, a friend, and me. That would be too ackward for me. I would not even do it when my best brother mentioned that his girlfriend wondered about it. I think it would have to do with the alpha male thing. We as men more than likely see our male companions as equal alpha males for the most part and strange males as nothing. There is a real danger when two alpha males share something.
I did this last year with one of my best friends and his wife, we are still friends. Honestly, afterward she starting texting and calling me wanting to hook up on the side, but that would have definitely end our friendship. She was a little upset when I said I could not do it, but I think she appreciated that I would not go behind my friends back.
Needless to say, were all still friends.
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