ok lemme start out by saying i have been in some crap relationships like i am sure many of you have.let me tell u bout my ex that i was with for 10 years- he cheated on me with some whore he met at a bar, left me i had a breakdown, he comes back 3 months later begging to come back home, leaves again this was all last year - he comes to my work in feb on valentines day this year saying we need to talk i told him no - fast foward to now he has been texting me , making me stuff, i want to be friends blahh blah but now he is dating this other girl not the one he cheated on me with - and talks about me all time in front of her i know this because we have mutual friends-she doesnt care i guess they trust each other so he says- so then he wants to come over and see our dog - i let him bad idea - i still love this dumbass - he has changed his family doesnt know him anymore changed for the worst i mean - so he says hes not in love with anymore why are u still trying to be in my life - i know i need to tell him to go f$%k his self but i still love him even though i know i could never be with him after everything he has done to me i havent even gone into all that.so here is my other situation i started dating someone new someone i had no desire to go out with went out with him anyway dated for bout 3 months tells me he hasnt felt like this bout someone in a long time i meet his child hes making all these plans for the future thenBAM he stops calling i call him i dont know if hes dead or alive then i finally talk to him a week later and he says hes scared he doesnt want to get hurt do guys really think like that ? then 3 weeks later i see him we have sex , then i dont hear from him for a while then out of the blue couple weeks ago he calls we talk for 2 hours he tells me he misses me he comes over we hang out fool around - but hes acting weird again now - he seemed so sincere could he really be an *******? so what do yall think? i got to buttholes on my hands or 2 misunderstood buttholes?
Good, confident men do not do the things you've described.
My experience, both with my wife and a few other women, is that some women, due to a myriad of factors, find stable men to be boring and banal. Their psyche craves drama (the brain chemicals which come from such stimulation) so they unconsciously seek it out.
Take a good long look at your attraction style and decide if there is some truth to what I say. The impetus for change is within you.
i want stable trustworthy faithful i dont want drama - im trying to work on why i pick these men- i know im not good enough for them - i try to find the best in people but i think some people dont have a best side of them-
no i mean i am to good for them them meaning these 2 guys they dont deserve me -i have values and morals they dont- i dont feel as if there are many people left in this world who have that. they know right from wrong they just dont give a **** .
this website and the people on it have helped me a lot-sometimes i read other people stories and they make me cry which is ok - oh and the guy that quit calling blah blah i asked him why he called me out of nowhere and told me he missed me his response just because i miss u doesnt mean i want a relationship!!!! i have got to quit letting these losers in my life!! i have never cheated on anyone and never would - here is a good quote about cheating-- afew actually- "cheating gets easier every time its done. its only hard the first time when one feels the sting of morality and the guilt of betraying someones trust" and another good one " a cheater only cheats him/her self because he/she doesnt get to be with you"
they know right from wrong they just dont give a **** .
Actually, that describes seriously gaping, PSYCHOPATHIC buttholes.
You are so right that you deserve better. I am not sure if you have considered therapy to find out more about what it is that attracts you to them. It might be easier than it feels, to be able to uncover it, overcome whatever it is that's keeping the pattern in place, and start connecting with people who reflect your own values and who you Truly Are.
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oh yeah im in therapy working on it - i think i think that i can fix people i cant! you cant control how someone acts - this website is so good for some therapy cos after a while u start driving ur friends nuts!
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wtf???
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