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Old 9th June 2008, 12:57 PM   #1
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how in the world...

ok so i have been with my boyfriend for amlost 2 and a half years... we have an amazing daughter who is 6 months old...

i feel like we have gotten stuck in a rutt... his big thing is that he NEVER wants to be married.. i on the other hand want to marry him so badly... how to i tell him that i wont wait forever to make my family complete? I would wait forever for this man... but i dont think i should have to...



any advice?
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Old 9th June 2008, 1:01 PM   #2
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ok so i have been with my boyfriend for amlost 2 and a half years... we have an amazing daughter who is 6 months old...

i feel like we have gotten stuck in a rutt... his big thing is that he NEVER wants to be married.. i on the other hand want to marry him so badly... how to i tell him that i wont wait forever to make my family complete? I would wait forever for this man... but i dont think i should have to...



any advice?
didn't you just post about your baby who doesn't sleep and in it referred to your significant other as your "fiance?"

Sooo....then what is it the problem?
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Old 9th June 2008, 1:02 PM   #3
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we technically are engaged... but thats what he wants it to stay as... nothing more...
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Old 20th June 2008, 8:55 AM   #4
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we technically are engaged... but thats what he wants it to stay as... nothing more...
Why are you engaged if he doesn't plan on marrying you? Did he propose to you? Man that is a really screwed up situation if he asked you to marry him but probably never will.

I'd be gone in a second if a guy did that to me. You and your daughter deserve better than that.
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Old 20th June 2008, 8:59 AM   #5
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you can't force a man to marry you- if marriage is what you want and he has made it clear to you that he does not i suggest you a) go to couples counciling to find out the real issue here; is he a commitment phobe or he wants to stay available? b) break it off and stay good friends c) deal with it find a way to finally realize that hey yall aren't getting hitched!

i would go with choice A -- both of you would get an insite on eachothers POV
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Old 21st June 2008, 2:20 AM   #6
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Hi paperthinheart,

Now that you have your Daughter, you need to make peace with your current arrangement unless/until he changes his mind.

The very best gift you can give your Daughter is two loving parents living together in harmony.
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