Mu Husband of 15 years slept with my younger sister
I don't knwo how to handle this whole situation...
We had a party on Saturday and after everyone left I went in search of them. I did not for one second think I woudl find them in bed having sex.. and then they acted as if nothing happened.. thinking I did not notice anything.. so the next day I hardly spoke to either one of them and later when my sister left I confronted my husband and he looked absolutly horrified and said that he can not remember anything both of them have been drinking and he says he can not remember anything.. He was as white as a sheet and did not know ho to react or what to say.. I made it very clear that I was very very disapointed he has never had one good word to say about my sister and then they end up having sex, I asked what will happen if she fell pregnant or if one of my children walked into that room and not me.. he was and is very ashamed of this whole thing.. My sister has not said a word I also feel that to confront her on a phone or e-mail is not how I want to do this I need to see her face to face and tell her what I found.. I don't know how to deal with this and if I will ever be able to forgive them she's my sister but I don't want her near me.. He's been my husband and friend for more than 15 years and I don't know how to handle them I want to be alone and think but how do i get over this and move on ?
I think this kind of situation need a therapist right in the midst of it. Call around and see if you can find one you like. Seriously, don't try to handle this yourself.
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I don't knwo how to handle this whole situation...
We had a party on Saturday and after everyone left I went in search of them. I did not for one second think I woudl find them in bed having sex.. and then they acted as if nothing happened.. thinking I did not notice anything.. so the next day I hardly spoke to either one of them and later when my sister left I confronted my husband and he looked absolutly horrified and said that he can not remember anything both of them have been drinking and he says he can not remember anything.. He was as white as a sheet and did not know ho to react or what to say.. I made it very clear that I was very very disapointed he has never had one good word to say about my sister and then they end up having sex, I asked what will happen if she fell pregnant or if one of my children walked into that room and not me.. he was and is very ashamed of this whole thing.. My sister has not said a word I also feel that to confront her on a phone or e-mail is not how I want to do this I need to see her face to face and tell her what I found.. I don't know how to deal with this and if I will ever be able to forgive them she's my sister but I don't want her near me.. He's been my husband and friend for more than 15 years and I don't know how to handle them I want to be alone and think but how do i get over this and move on ?
I'm confused.. why wait now to confront them.. why didn't you confront them right then when you caught them.. now they can act stupid as if nothing happened.. and maybe you'll end up thinking that you imagine this.. holly molly.. man.. I have to shake my head sometimes..
Why leave them the chance to make you feel 'unsure' about the whole thing and maybe they will end up telling you it's YOUR fault..
Geezzz.... your husband is an idiot.. period... dump him.
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That's terrible, cast them both from your life. But let me also open this can of worms - a brother would never do it to his brother. It's a female competitiveness thing.
That's terrible, cast them both from your life. But let me also open this can of worms - a brother would never do it to his brother. It's a female competitiveness thing.
Michael Jackson's brother, Jermaine Jackson, did it to younger brother, Randy Jackson.
Jermaine married and had kids with Randy's wife.
I also know of a co-worker who slept with his brother's wife.
drunk or not, that's a serious lapse in judgment when you decide to screw your wife's sister/your sister's husband. They knew what they were doing, drunk or not, so don't let him off the hook.
as for her, I think I'd beat the shxt out of her. Because SHE definitely should know better, being flesh and blood.
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I'm confused.. why wait now to confront them.. why didn't you confront them right then when you caught them.. now they can act stupid as if nothing happened.. and maybe you'll end up thinking that you imagine this.. holly molly.. man.. I have to shake my head sometimes..
Why leave them the chance to make you feel 'unsure' about the whole thing and maybe they will end up telling you it's YOUR fault..
Geezzz.... your husband is an idiot.. period... dump him.
I'm confused by this post Lizzie.. you advocate cheating and even say that it is good for a marriage in other threads..
What is different about this thread ?
To the OP... I think Tink is right.. you both need to be in front of a counselor to sort this out..
You have been betrayed not only by your husband but also by your same blood sister and those are very hard things to tackle on your own
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holly molly.. man.. I have to shake my head sometimes.. 
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