[Darkflower]

No, I do not particularly want to be married.

Mostly, I think it's because I don't have in sufficient quantity what I know (from observation and anecdotal evidence) it takes to make a go of a marriage, and don't have enough of a desire to be married to acquire the traits I lack.

I am extremely happy with my life, and if I were to add another person to it, what they add to my life would have to be far greater than what I would have to change or give up. I don't think that's a realistic expectation.

I never say never though, about anything. Could be that some day a man will come along with whom I click and nothing I have to give or give up will seem like a trial compared to having this amazing person in my life. But I'll be perfectly happy if that never happens.

Off-topic note: I know this is an old thread, and I'm not sure how reviving old threads is viewed in this community, so someone feel free to tell me if it's a no-no.

[shanny]

If he were the right guy I would totally be with him if he didn't want to get married... but many girls do have the dream of their fairytale wedding. And being a diamond lover I might like a ring... But again, the right guy means A LOT more than a diamond and a wedding.

[Darkflower]

Shanny's reply alerted me to the fact that I missed part of the question, i.e. the long-term, non-married partnership. I would pursue that, I think, if the right guy came along, but clear boundaries and expectations would have to be set up and reevaluated over time. And I don't think I'd want to cohabitate with someone, at least not in the traditional sense. Like, I don't care how long we're together, but beyond the equivalent of an overnight bag, I don't want a bunch of your **** over here. lol And don't come over here expecting me to do your laundry or because it's the only way you'll get a home-cooked meal.