Hi my 6 months old boyfriend who is handsome, caring, homely, soft-spoken, responsible, romantic and etc has started discussing marriage with me. I do love him but he is an ex-schizophrenia. I don't mind him as an exclusive life partner but he wants commitment into marriage. How should I deal with this?
This type of mental illness is a forever thing, schizophrenia doesn't go away, though it can be controlled with medication and therapy.
Also keep in mind that this type of mental illness IS hereditory, so you really need to think if you want to have children with this guy. Love or not, mental illness isn't easy to deal with.
There's no cure for schizophrenia although you can be medicated for it, therefore, masking some of the symptoms. You will find that the person on medication won't be as bright as they once were and will also find that they can be forgetful.
My aunt by marriage has schizophrenia. She sometimes requires a change in medication when her tolerance level builds to the point that the medication is no longer effective.
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Yup, or some other type of mental illness, bi-polar and/or depression.
Raindrop, make sure you do as much reading as you can about schizophrenia, so you can understand what it is and also what you're up against in the long run IF you decide to stick with your relationship.
This type of mental illness is a forever thing, schizophrenia doesn't go away, though it can be controlled with medication and therapy.
Also keep in mind that this type of mental illness IS hereditory, so you really need to think if you want to have children with this guy. Love or not, mental illness isn't easy to deal with.
We have decided not to have children if we get married. I have done quite a fair bit of research. Some said schizophrenia is curable to an extent if the person go and see a new doctor who does not have his medical record, may not be able to tell that this person used to have this illness and that schizophrenia normally won't turn violant.
On the contrary, I have also read articles that depict the completely different findings. So which is which, I am quite confused.
We went to see his doctor together. But the doctor seemed quite reserve and didn't share much about his medical history and put forward a brief statement that it is all right for a schizo to get married. Somehow, I noticed contradiction on the doctor's facial expression though...
You can be in remission and mask it but complete remission? I don't think so.
Might wanna do some research on what specific category/disorder he fell into in the Schiz. family. Do you know his complete mental illness history?
No, I don't have his complete medical history. Have seen his doctor and checked with him personally. I felt both of them didn't tell the whole truth.
My boyfriend told me his illness is a mild one and harmless. However, he had been hospitalised few times since his first attack at 29. My personal view is that if it is mild one, he just needs outpatient treatment and not hospitalised. However, I am not an expert in this, I may be wrong though.
I think you should consult with someone about this. There are many subtypes of Schizophrenia and disorders within it. There's not just one and each case is unique. Make him tell you if you don't know already what he's been diagnosed with. He knows. If it's mild and harmless then so be it. But still, make sure because it sounds like your not getting the whole truth.
Something like this, your BF needs to be open and honest so please educate yourself and don't let him blow it off.
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