You all know my friend who had his wife leave him for another man that she was just so connected and attracted to. Well last night he beat the living crap out of her and my friend is gloating about it. At first I thought he was being cruel but he spent the past 2 years hearing every small flaw of his blwn up and hearing what a horrible husband he is compared to OM who she has this amazing connection to so to him this is karma coming back to bite her. He feels like this is what she wanted so this is what she gets.
So, you might want to prepare your testimony for the upcoming domestic battery trial. Since he talked to you about it, you may be called to testify. I'll assume she'll file charges against him.
His feelings are absolutely valid. His actions are deplorable and illegal. He should contact a lawyer now.
So, you might want to prepare your testimony for the upcoming domestic battery trial. Since he talked to you about it, you may be called to testify. I'll assume she'll file charges against him.
His feelings are absolutely valid. His actions are deplorable and illegal. He should contact a lawyer now.
My understanding of the post was that the new boyfriend beat this woman up, not Woggle's friend. Still pretty shabby to gloat about anyone getting beaten up though.
You're probably making this up, but if not, I hope she called the police and had him charged!
You're friend sounds very immature as this incident is not related to him at all.
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Originally Posted by Woggle
You all know my friend who had his wife leave him for another man that she was just so connected and attracted to. Well last night he beat the living crap out of her and my friend is gloating about it. At first I thought he was being cruel but he spent the past 2 years hearing every small flaw of his blwn up and hearing what a horrible husband he is compared to OM who she has this amazing connection to so to him this is karma coming back to bite her. He feels like this is what she wanted so this is what she gets.
Thanks for the correction. I got the "he's" mixed up
From that perspective, your friend still has a long way to go. I can't ever imagine wishing my wife harm or gloating about it, no matter how she's behaved wrt me. It goes to basic human decency. I think your friend needs to hear that from a friend....
This is the same friend who has in the past encouraged me to divorce my wife and while I don't condone his current attitude who can blame him? He recently got his niceguy wakeup call and that can be a bitter pill for a men to swallow. Growing a spine is often a hard and long process for a man and he is in the middle of that process right now. When you think about it though his wife wanted some drama and excitment and she got it.
Yeah but just because you have your friend's perspective, doesn't mean he was a great of a husband as he claims. His wife wanted out of the marriage,they weren't compatible for whatever reason, they divorced, end of story.
He is sick in the head if he would gloat over the physical harm of someone. That's all there is to that.
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This is the same friend who has in the past encouraged me to divorce my wife and while I don't condone his current attitude who can blame him? He recently got his niceguy wakeup call and that can be a bitter pill for a men to swallow. Growing a spine is often a hard and long process for a man and he is in the middle of that process right now. When you think about it though his wife wanted some drama and excitment and she got it.
Is my friend wrong for feeling this way?
You all know my friend who had his wife leave him for another man that she was just so connected and attracted to. Well last night he beat the living crap out of her and my friend is gloating about it. At first I thought he was being cruel but he spent the past 2 years hearing every small flaw of his blwn up and hearing what a horrible husband he is compared to OM who she has this amazing connection to so to him this is karma coming back to bite her. He feels like this is what she wanted so this is what she gets.
I don't think he's "wrong" to feel whatever it is that he feels. He's bound to be feeling some vindication that he was right all along and 'the grass truly wasn't greener'. And after two years of being picked apart, this is confirmation that his instincts and judgment were correct.
Further, his "gloating" insulates him just a bit. It keeps him from feeling sorry for his ex, and thus becoming vulnerable to any future overtures by her... so in that, it's serving a purpose.
I don't think any of this means your friend is a bad guy, Woggle. He's just an ordinary human being.
2. Your friends encourage you to divorce your current wife who by all accounts seems to have the patience of an angel
3. A woman gets "the crap beat out of her" and you are all just ha ha ha It's Karma!
4. The ex of this poor woman is "gloating" about the physical trauma she has just experienced because she quite obviously deserved it.
I say, your moral universe is a weird one and you come on here rather often to talk about this strange cabal of people around you ruining your life one way or the other, or, now, reveling in the misfortune of others. You do not know the whole story of your friend and this poor girl and what went wrong and while I am truly sorry your friend was hurt by her, it is no excuse for this kind of twisted schadenfreude (look it up).
I'm not indifferent but when she runs off with a known player what did she expect? It's horrible that she was beaten up but as KJ said the grass obviously was not greener.
I do have an interesting group of friends but I love them. They are a mess but they are my mess.
If the R with the OM ended, I could appreciate your friend feeling a little bit satisfied, who wouldn't?
But to be pleased that she had the living crap beaten out of her?
Thats bad, it shows how bitterness can poison your mind.
If the R with the OM ended, I could appreciate your friend feeling a little bit satisfied, who wouldn't?
But to be pleased that she had the living crap beaten out of her?
Thats bad, it shows how bitterness can poison your mind.
I sort of agree. I watched this guy go from a nice gentle man to a bitter women hater and while I understand where it is coming from I hope this is just a phase for him.
When someone hurts us we all go through a certain degree of bitterness, its normal.
But you have a choice about what you do with that bitterness- you can let it consume you and influence every subsequent R you have, dooming them before they start, or you can let it empower you to be a stronger person and not get into that situation again.
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