[Sierra1234]

Hello ~

Well, a friend of mine starting staying with me right out of rehab- drugs and alcohol. He relapsed a couple of times but has now been sober for about 4 months I guess I never really knew how difficult recovery was. Or to put it better, what consisted of recovery, the ups and downs, mood swings, etc. It wasn't until after I did much needed research that I could be more aware and understanding of things. So, during a recent conversation about him possibly finding his own place to live, he told me that "he needed me everyday" and that I was "his heroin." Not that I was pressuring him to move or even providing the idea that I would not be there for him, but I was a little taken aback by this statement. It was a little intense at the moment.

So, if you can relate in any sort of way and provide me with some enlightening information, it would be appreciated. I guess I am just searching for some additional early stages of recovery stories and what someone in this stage would mean by this. I definately want to continue helping him and would like to do so in the most positive way. Thank you!

[Fun2BMe]

It's kind of like someone in therapy idolizing their therapist at a difficult time in their life, because they are the one who 'saved' them and is there for them. Encourage your friend to move out and unless you are in love mutually, it's not a healthy situation considering he is making you out to be a hero when they are the ones who have put in the effort to quit their addiction. Be responsible and gently guide them in th right direction.