I don't even know why I care/bother anymore with him. I don't know maybe because I'm lonely?
For those who have read my previous posts you might know who I'm talking about, it's the same person. For those who don't know what I'm talking about, please read my previous posts. I posted them below..
Last time I posted on here he found out, so I stopped posting, but I'm back again. I guess you could say I don't care, or I'm fed up, I don't know...
He googled my name and found all the posts and got pissed off and told me "Wanted nothing more to do with me". He said the reason why he got so pissed was because his wife could very easily find this just like he did and not give him a divorce (this was last year). So, things ended on a bad note, and we stopped talking, until he decided to contact me later on down the road.
Well, after a period of not talking, when we finally started talking again he claimed he's "changed" and is no longer the ******* that he use to be to me, and apologized for all the bad**** that he said over time. He claims that he now has better "control" over his anger, and how he deals with things.
He's snapped at me more than once, and has cussed towards me trying to blame the Phentermine I was taking at that time, saying it made him nervous, because I was snappy (I'm no longer on it).
Last night, he yelled at me because I wrote him a long whiny/bitchy email. He said that his wife saw it (because she's doing his taxes so she's in his email account?) and got all pissed off, so she threw his big screen plasma TV out the window after she saw it (they don't live together), and he had to leave work because of it. He said it was "MY fault" that she did that and that "He wanted nothing more to do with me" because of it. He says that he doesn't "trust me" with emails, or phone calls, since I "don't respect" him by letting him get off of the phone when he needs to go.
He said the main reason why she freaked out, was because on that email I mentioned to him about him not getting the divorce yet, and it "freaked" her out, because she "didn't" know that he wanted it right now. You see, he's told me MORE than once that he was going to get a divorce from her for OVER A YEAR, but there is always something that comes up, or some reason on why it didn't, or couldn't happen. What gets me is how could she "not" know? He's always claimed that she "knew" about" it..
Also, today he removed me from his myspace and said he did it to "shut her up". Then, his wife changed her picture to a picture of them together, and now his myspace is private (he said he put it private to cut down on spam). He told me "Well, you're still on here (yahoo messenger)". "Sorry, she's doing my taxes, I want to make sure I get them back lol".
I know I need to stay away from him, that he's toxic?
I guess my question here is..Is he being abusive still? or is it all in my head?
I guess I can understand why he would get mad, because he says that I'm "overbearing", "clingy", "immature", and emotionally immature". I don't know what to believe really. I mean maybe in some way I'm kind of causing it?
I would just like some opinions here, any kind are welcome.
Thank you!
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You are making yourself out to be a fool. This guy yells at you, treats you like garbage, and won't divorce his wife. You are being used and abused. You need to leave him now!
I still don't know though, if like I said this is all in my head, or if it's abuse? I don't know if I'm possibly blowing things out of proportion, or if what I think is correct, which is he's being abusive, playing mind games, and being manipulating.
I ask this, because I've been told that I tend to blow things out of proportion so hopefully, here I will have some more people respond and get their thoughs/insight on it..
I still don't know though, if like I said this is all in my head, or if it's abuse? I don't know if I'm possibly blowing things out of proportion, or if what I think is correct, which is he's being abusive, playing mind games, and being manipulating.
I ask this, because I've been told that I tend to blow things out of proportion so hopefully, here I will have some more people respond and get their thoughs/insight on it..
We can only go by what you write on here and it looks and sounds like an abuser. I hope that you come to the realization that you don't need this crap and drama that he is feeding you. His W knows about you. Aren't you concerned that one day she is going to track you down?
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That's what I feel like..
Its the truth. Do something about it. Better yourself.
Aren't you concerned that one day she is going to track you down?
I am, and I'm not. I don't know if you know, but she lives in Virginia, I live way over here in Washington state. Yes I know, it's stupid to be in this drama to begin with since he's long distance.
I already wrote about all of it in my previous posts in the links that I provided, I don't know if you read them or not.
I am, and I'm not. I don't know if you know, but she lives in Virginia, I live way over here in Washington state. Yes I know, it's stupid to be in this drama to begin with since he's long distance.
I already wrote about all of it in my previous posts in the links that I provided, I don't know if you read them or not.
I'll admit that I haven't, but I don't need to read those to tell you that the situation you are in will not produce positive results. She may be on the other side of the country but I'm sure that you are aware just how emotions can get the best of someone. All it takes is for her to get p*ssed off enough to buy a plane ticket.
I wish I could show you just how much better off you and your life will be without being involved in all this crap that you are involved in.
I have a dear friend whom I first met at your age (now). She was married to a man like your MM. She stayed married to him for 20 years. She thought there was something wrong with me because I treated her so nice (I just thought I was "normal"). I think she still thinks that, deep down, she doesn't deserve to be treated nice. Her daughter is your age. I would've given anything to have been a role model for her and her brother instead of that person who left her crying all the time.
Please, listen to me. Get away from this person and cease all contact. I don't want to see what happened to her happen to you or anyone. This will kill a part of you, a very important part. Don't let it happen.
I have a dear friend whom I first met at your age (now). She was married to a man like your MM. She stayed married to him for 20 years. She thought there was something wrong with me because I treated her so nice (I just thought I was "normal"). I think she still thinks that, deep down, she doesn't deserve to be treated nice. Her daughter is your age. I would've given anything to have been a role model for her and her brother instead of that person who left her crying all the time.
Please, listen to me. Get away from this person and cease all contact. I don't want to see what happened to her happen to you or anyone. This will kill a part of you, a very important part. Don't let it happen.
Thank you for sharing your story carhill.
If you don't mind me asking..what was the end result? is she ok? or still with him?...
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Here we go again..any adivce is welcome.
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