I swear too much, too. I get frustrated and bad words just spring to mind. It comes from my mom - she swore like a sailor throughout my childhood and adolescence, so no one ever really said anything when I started to swear, too...now I'm trapped. I'm subscribing to get advice.
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I see it as a class issue and a byproduct of frustration. In my case, I work in the blue collar world where such language is more prevalent. I also have been pretty frustrated for a few years, hence more use of profanity. Neither of my parents ever used profanity; harshest word my dad ever used was "darn". I've found, as I spend more time with folks with a similar mindset as myself (decidedly not blue collar) and reduce my frustration in my marriage (through MC), I'm not swearing nearly as much. Lately it's been very rare.
My dad used to say people swear when they've run out of intelligent things to say. I hate it when dad is right
" My dad used to say people swear when they've run out of intelligent things to say. I hate it when dad is right"
Yeah, I don't really believe that though. Maybe because I am highly emotional in certain situations is when this happens.
But you know, if someone is swearing ALL THE TIME for no reason, yeah, I have to think they are pretty ignorant and/or classless.
Like at work, I hardly EVER swear. Because I refuse to give a crap there. But at home, with the dogs, kids, whatever, I just cant help it but have to stop.
I say 'fudge', and Unders, its funny you mention dag nab it, because I have been using that! How weird! I tried Dad Gum too (read that in a comic book).
But I'm convinced there is something mentally going on that if I just had a grasp on, I can build off of it.
I bet I have to mentally prepare myself BEFORE something triggers me emotionally.
I'm similar (react emotionally) but my intelligence tells me dad was right I think the precise words he used were "emotion speaking without the benefit of intellect".
My problem is many of my contemporaries use profanity as a language, rather than as an exclamation point in an emotional response. It's often hard to gauge exactly where they're going. I also don't engage in "trash talking" about women, which is common, or ogling. I just don't see women that way, no matter how I've been treated. It's a matter of dignity with me.
I'm similar (react emotionally) but my intelligence tells me dad was right I think the precise words he used were "emotion speaking without the benefit of intellect".
My problem is many of my contemporaries use profanity as a language, rather than as an exclamation point in an emotional response. It's often hard to gauge exactly where they're going. I also don't engage in "trash talking" about women, which is common, or ogling. I just don't see women that way, no matter how I've been treated. It's a matter of dignity with me.
Yeah! You know, thats a great way to put it! Those that use profanity as a language is rather lazy and could definitely appear non-intelligent.
Its like comedians are to me as well. The funniest ones to me are the ones that don't swear all the time, with the exception of George Carlin
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