[cecil brown]

I sent her an e-mail, explaining to her how I feel and how I still love her. Probably not the smartest thing to do, but it's been something I've had to get off my chest. Didn't want to go thru life wondering "what if?"

A few days pass and I get a response...I thought for a split second this was going to be my big break. Ummm, no.....She's in a happy relationship, they bought a home together, thier kids love each other, and he's her best friend.

Ouch. Immediate sadness overtook me; I cried....But with all this pain finally comes the clarity that i desperately needed. It finally sinks in now that she's gone. No more fantasy's of her returning.

That chapter of my life has been officially closed. No going back.

I'm going to press forward while continuing to work on myself and let the cards fall where they may.

[tonyeltiger]

I'm sorry things didn't work out for you. But at least now you finally have some closure. It's something that everyone deserves.

[s_n_d]

Hang in there.
Things can ONLY get better from now on.

[PinkRibbon]

Wow in 6 months she has bought a house with another man and he is her best friend?? You were still moving stuff out in December according to your posts. Makes you wonder if she had him on the back burner before you even broke up???

Still I feel for you today. It can be an awful blow when the one who leaves is doing much better than the person they left.

[bustertypsy]

Cecil,it must be a big knock back for you.You had the hopes of the past 6 months dashed.At least now you know and you can begin to look forward knowing she is gone.
You need to accept beyond doubt that it is definately over from your side.The only time you should ever talk to her again is if she makes contact with you.
I always advocate not breaking NC for the very reasons you have just experienced.
I sincerely hope you heal at a fast rate and don't have to suffer it all over again.

[e.clipse]

yes, i think 6 months is not a very long time to build a whole new life, with an assuredly steady foundation. but also, at this point, it is pointless for you to think about this.

i'm sorry this happened, cecil. i can relate to not talking to the object of your love for months, only to break the silence, get a reply, momentarily feel that maybe things will be good again, only to have them be the opposite. it is a very disheartening feeling, and so i completely empathize with you.

but you know what? maybe this isn't the good again that you were hoping for, but it doesn't mean that it's not the good again that you need. perhaps you finding out exactly where she stands--a place that is now off-limits--will force you to press forward. after all, there is nothing to go back to anymore, not more hope and no more chances. at least, none that pertain to her, but there will always be hope and chance for you.

(((cecil)))

[cecil brown]

I appreciate the kind words.

Just to clarify, we have been broken up a year, but my last contact with her was in August of last year. I knew then she was seeing someone, but I held out hope she would return.

Even though it hurts, I'm glad I made an effort to contact her. At least I finally have some closure and know exactly where I stand. There are things that are still a little confusing to me, and I do miss her and her son, but at the same time, I'm finally beginning to realize that for whatever reason, it just wasn't meant to be.

I wish her nothing but the best, and I truly hope she's happy.